^3 right marry him? i live with him, i couln't even change the carpet in the house from 20 years cuz it was here when they bought the house, marry him, when he thinks his 31 year old daughter is still 12 and "she don't know better," exactly why i would marry him! oh yeah, she made it clear how his exgirlfriend was psycho too??!?!?! do the math. please op, there are two perpectives to your problem. if you love your fiance, please consider the whole picture and know your kids with be manipulating to get there way. they will grow up and start their own famiies one day, where does that leave you????
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I am sure this wasn't something you were oblivious to before you asked her to marry you. The kids can probably tell she doesn't truely love you and is a selfish person, but you can't see past her tits and ass yet. Listen to your kids and at least make it a looong engagement.
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If your fiance loved you she would love your kids. They are a part of you.
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Maybe your kids see something you don't.
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Your not stuck, if your a decent human being you will get rid of the girlfriend for the sake of the kids
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No you aren't...you need to put your kids first before yourself. You need to make your children your first priority and rid yourself of your fiance.
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how could you be with someone who don't like LOVE your kids!!!!?? if your kids don't like her then there is probably a good reason!!! kids usaully see people for their true colors, you should be real cautious!!!!!
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If your fiance does not like your kids, and your kids don't like her, at the very least, postpone the wedding! If not, I guarentee you a hell on earth after you're married - trust me on this one!
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Big trouble ahead for you matey! If she doesn't like your kids, and they don't like her, your life will give "hell on earth" a new meaning! ("One who knows!")
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You are not "Stuck!" You are choosing to remain in an untenable realtionship! If she does not like your kids, and your kids don't like her, you'll be in for "Hell on earth" if you marry this woman! This is the truth.
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lol...damn, that sucks but, screw it unless you think she would put in the effort to be who she needed to be as a step mother. If she liked the kids the would more than likely, like her. They don't like her because thy know she doesn't like them.
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Men can't look past thier penis'. That is both a need and a want. The penis will have the last say. Not the kids. Besides, if he is the one that ended up with custody, he must be attracted to real winners.
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forgot to add, i would guess the mother of the children are manipulating them too. they will listen to her, she is jealous of her ex's fiance. use common sense guy. the kids will ccme to love her in the long run but you have to be the MAN!
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4^ You couldn't be more right. Children always want their parents back together. Some just take longer to adjust to the idea. It may not be that she doesn't like your children. If they are making it harder on her just because she isn't Mommy, you need to talk to them and their mother. Try to get to the root of why they don't like her. If their complaints are legit, then address them to the fiance. If not, give it time and be patient. Putting your children first doesn't mean getting rid of the fiance, but it does mean finding a solution. Definitely try to get their mother in on the solution though. If your kids know their mother is alright with it, their perspectives are bound to change.
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DUMP THE CUNT OR YOUR KIDS WILL HATE YOU FOREVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You don't know jack sh*t about what "the ultimate sin" is.
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You are headed for real trouble if you chose this woman over your own children! (One who knows the hard way)
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Your Lucy has got some splainin to do. Be fair to everyone, and air the concerns.
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I think you should try to get your own reality show. It might be called "Borning Normal Life" or "My Dad's a Pussy"
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I didn't like my step dad wither and begged my momnot to marry him that was when I was 9, I am 28 and they are still married, he turned out to be alright and i love him. This will depend on your Girlfriend if she doens't like them it will never work she has to stay strong and the kids will come around...usually. Good Luck
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ALWAYS put your kids first. If she doesn't like them she's gotta go.
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^^^^^^6..This is absolutely ignorant and ridiculous thought. This situation is not based on "Needs", it is based on "Wants". A kid doesn't know what they "Need" in life and a family structure. They might know what they want and don't, they don't want to go to school, but they need to. They want to drive a car, but they don't need to. This is a parental decision, not a childs. It's up to the parent to make the best choice overall, with consideration for the children. This isn't a situation of putting the kids first. If it's a decision that would be more beneficial for the kids in the long run, then even if the kids don't like it, or want it, then it's just to bad. Don't be selfish, just make the right decision based on needs, not wants.
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^ Damn skippy!
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theres a pretty good chance if she doesnt like your kids, they know it, hence them not liking her, and she is the adult
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well, its only going to get worse, NOT better. Break it off for everyones sake !!!
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come on people, let kids decide??? i was in that with my bf daughter she was ony 7 years younger, games, games, and games. he told me i had to kiss her ass. she pushed me cuz she wanted her mom back with him. be fair, unless you've been there, shut the f up, it's hard!
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OK, Look. Your fiance doesn't like your kids because your kids don't like her. Plain and simple. And your kids don't like her because she is not their Mommy. So you need to break the ice with the kids and have a talk about life, marriage and your happiness. Be a dad in need about it.
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^^would you have married him though????
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Kids needs first, not yours. Get out of the commitment of marrying this person. If you don't, you will find that her role as stepmother will errode the ability to trust others for the rest of their lives. It's not worth risking so much.
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