Is this another fat-assed thread?
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YES!! Its THAT important!!
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Um....... YEAH..... I'll need to see a pic to be 100% certain though....
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are you crazy? of course you should let him see you naked, if you trust him enough to marry him you should definetly trust him enough to let him see you naked. You have problems, serious problems, i hope i never get the pleasure of meeting you.
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Yes, dear one, it is. For any number of reasons, many of us have "hangups" that keep us from living life healthfully. I would gently suggest to you that your attitude is harmful to your marriage and to both your and your husband's happiness.
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i am the op.....why is not exposing myself unhealthy? i know i have hangups, but just because i prefer to have sex with the lights out doesn't mean i want to "harm" my marriage! and if sex is an indication of a good marriage then we are probably doing it more than most couples. as far as it being a trust issue, that is not it at all. i was very heavy at one point in my life and have lost almost a hundred pounds. would you really want to see a person with saggy skin walking around in the nude? it's hard to feel attractive when in reality that is not the truth. some people don't look good naked and i just happen to be one of them....that's why i asked if it was that important! would you want to see your significant other in the nude if they were unattractive?????
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YES!!! OP, you're missing the point here. IF he wants to see you naked you shouldn't deny him because of your hangups. If he truly loves you he will see nothing but beauty. You obviously know this but as a reminder, marriage is all about sacrifice. It's time for you to sacrifice.
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Yes....
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Im 5'3" 106 lbs, and no fat but if I havent been excer like I should I feel self-conscience but my man doesnt seem to even notice... he looks at me and puts his hands all over me like Im perfect... but it bothers me.
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Yes, it's very important. Refusing to be naked in front of your partner means that you're holding part of yourself back, setting up a wall. You need to get counseling for this.
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^(op)i just don't think counseling will make a difference in this case...what do they do, exposure therapy? i am way better than i was a year ago, i wouldn't even have sex without my nightgown on....but i just don't see sexy naked showers in my near future.
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You don't hide things from the one who is supposed to share everything with you. Do you keep secrets from each other as a general rule? Relax and give yourself fully to the one that loved you so much he even married you! We all have hang-ups, no one is perfect,
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You are missing out on the showers!
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^^(op) im sorry if you interpret my post as keeping some sort of "secret" from my husband, he seems to know all about it as far as i can tell...but you are right about being open with your spouse. i have talked with him about surgery (which he supports) but we really want to have kids in the near future(our first pregnancy ended in mc) so i feel kinda stuck right now.
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^why are you a chubby chaser? oh that's right 370 is probably a little on the small side for you :)
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Yes being naked in front of your husband is very important
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(op)^how about if he pays for a tummy tuck i will do a jig???
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^a naked jig :)
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you can't say jig on here, it's racist
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^rotflmao!!!
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Hear me MEN ARE VISUAL!!!! Women aren't so much. Does he do things for you like dinners out, nice complements etc etc?!?!?? well then get over yourself and please your man!!!!!!!!!!!
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^(op)for your information i am the one who keeps the house clean, has a homemade dinner on the table every nite, and ANYTHING he wants in bedroom is fair game...other than me prancing around the room with the lights on. he compliments me, but he is more of a do-er than a say-er as far as showing his appreciation for me (what says love like going out in 20 below to start my car for me? i would take that over roses any day!). he is wonderful and i'm lucky to have such a great man as my husband! and i have brought up lingerie and he isn't interested...he says it's just one more thing to take of anyhow. his fantasy girl is tight blue jeans and a t-shirt with a pony tail so it doesn't take much to make him happy, other than the naked thing i guess....
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yes
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^yes what?
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"is it really that important?" YES
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Great! So you weigh 370 now?
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It's about letting him love ALL of you. Or more importantly, you loving all of yourself enough to let him love all of you.
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(op)i guess i should just count my blessings he puts up with me then... and i can understand seeing your wife naked is important to a man. my husband has no issues walking out of the shower in front of me and i know it bothers him that i'm not comfortable doing the same. i just don't know how to get over the embarrassment so i can actual feel comfortable with it.
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Have you considered counseling? I know what it feels like to be uncomfortable in my own skin.(I think all of us do to some degree) One day I realized that life was too short ot be unhappy with myself and if others don't like it then too bad! Since then, I still have moments- but others won't see that I am uncomfortable!
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Give him a chance to make you feel beautiful. He is your partner and lover. Let him help you.
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Gosh.. I wish i was 10 pounds less than when I first got married! I'd be walking around naked all over the world! lol Seriously, after a while you walk around the house naked, you shower in front of them, poop in front of them and nothing is private after you have a kid so just whip it off and get used to it. it feels great....
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Men are visual...it is important to them. If you care about him you willcompromise somehow..how about sexy lingerie, doesn't reveal all of you and can perk you up in the right places?! Maybe? give it a try at least.
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