gee didnt see that one coming?love is blind marriage a eye opener. Heres the deal: don't know don't care ABOUT EVERY DETAIL, life is too short to stay with him. swallow your pride say," I made a mistake" and get on with life.
I know you will stay a year thinking your saving face and then leave. I hope he's not beating you (he will) oh, DON'T GET PRAGO THINKING HE WILL STOP, HE WONT. HE'll RAISE YOUR CHILD TO BE LIKE HIM.
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RUN, Run like the wind!!!!!!!!!
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LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE HE DOESN'T RESPECT YOUR WISHES!!!!
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Get out now before it's too late. Mine swore he'd stop drinking as soon as our little girl was born. Stupid me, and our 3rd on the way, he still drinks every day.
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Marriage does not make a person change. You knew this person drank before saying 'I do'. Seek out a support group for family members of alcholics in your area. Do not let this person control bills or finaces either or you will find it has all been spent on booze.
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RUN, don't walk to the nearest exit.
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To all those people that love judging...actually he did not drink before the wedding, he drank once in a while when we went out with friends. He only drank soda and juice. And no he has not hit me...I put my secret down because i dont understand what changed from then till now. No need to put ignorant comments down....
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still doesnt change the fact that he drinks I know you love him but break your heart it will mend most of the comments would not change if they knew the whole story dont let yours be a tragic ne leave now. if he hide the drinking before you married he will tell you he stopped but he be drink behind your back. you have been given great advice its up to you to use it
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Is he drinking or getting drunk--there is a big difference. He may be trying to calm his nerves after making a huge commitment. You have to talk to him. Men sometimes feel a huge burden and responsiblity after marriage that does not hit home until the reality sets in. Speak positively to him, affirm your trust and respect for him. My wife stood by me when I went through this, never judged, never threatened, kept praying and attending our church (both of us). Had she reacted negatively it would have been an excuse for me to drink more heavily and more often. I have never hit her, and I didn't get drunk.
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I'm so sorry. That is terrible, but if he won't talk to you about the underlying issue, maybe you can still get an annulment?
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not to be mean, but the honey moon must have sucked.
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One of two scenarios here...you married him and knew he was a drunk and thought that somehow magically a ring on his finger would sober him up. Or you are completely blind and know next to nothing about this man. Either way, you are a fool. You need to sober up on life before you start pointing fingers at anyone else.
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If his drinking is a problem for you go to Al-Anon. It is a support group for those who are in relationships with alcoholics. Although he may not be an alcoholic, listening to the others' stories you may hear something you can relate to.
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I hated my first husband before we got married. I hated him even more after.But I had his children so I didnt leave. I wasted seven years with that sex addicted,bad tempered meth addict. Dont waste your life!
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u can get an annulement with in the first 3 or 6 mnths of marriage...get out i left my ex fiancee b4 the IDO's for the same reason dnt settle for less or care wat othe
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i don't want to judge you or pretend to know what is going on,..all I know is, if i were in your shoes, i would try to find out if i could help him, if the drinking bothered me, i would ask him to stop, if it isn't get me any where to ask him, then i would try to show him how much i would try to make it work,...but 3rd time is the last time, if you are trying and he isn't, then i think you should count your blessing that you did try and let it be how it lies and walk away before your stuck.
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