If you want your relationship to work, it has to be built on very good communication. Just tell him what you know and ask him what's up.
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after he leaves on that trip, call a locksmith and have all the locks changed, toss his clothes in the front yard, and never look back.
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Confront him. Probably not the first time he's cheated on you. But if it is his first attempt, by confronting him now you'll be nipping it in the bud. If the relationship is worth saving, he'll acquiesce to your demands. Otherwise you're saving yourself a lot of grief down the road.
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set his car on fire, not in the garage,or take the spare keys steal the car sell it make sure u wipe off ur prints and spay unfimilliar airscent.
get the $$$$$$$$$$$$$ and party
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Catch him in the act.
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Can you follow him? Get pictures? Catch him in the act? Do not do anything that will hurt you.
Hire a private eye. Good Luck!
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Suck him off, then go cook him a steak. He wont think about doing it again. Unless you are a fat cow.
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Get a good lawyer so you can take everything, and change the locks while he's gone!
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Go with your gut instinct. I found out too late and even planned a trip for mine to go see his ailing father, I didn't know he had been talking and texting her shit, I had no clue, we were happy when all this happened. Found out he cheated by a text message telling him to call before he heads home, I just happened to be standing next to his phone. We have been married 18 years and were getting ready to leave on our dream vacation. It's been a year an 1/2 since I found out. We are still together but I wish I had an opportunity to talk to him BEFORE it happened. He didn't even wear a condom......I'm still sick over it.
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I agree the simple solution is honestly. Sit him down without yelling and tell him what you've fund out. Tell him that you are hurt,worried and confused. You value him and your marraige, and you are concerned that his motives are not pure or healthy, or he would have simply told you he was going to look up an old friend. The fact he has not done so, gives you tremendous anxiety, and you'd like him to explain why he wants to meet her, and, why he wanted to do so secretly. Hopefully he'll discuss it with you and put your mind at rest. But, it may also bring up unpleasantries you're not yet prepared to deal with. It's a double-edged sword sometimes -- knowledge, that is. Good luck.
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Once a scumbag, always a scumbag...
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She lives in the next state over and he used to drive there every other weekend for about a year or so, at least thats what he told me in the past. The reason they broke it off was only because at that time in their lives neither could leave their jobs to move together. He claimed she was "the best" he ever had until me. You made a good point about a stranger "telling me how to live my life". Really I just want opinions and suggestions to help me make a decision as I have never faced this issue before. Thanks so much for taking the time to post.
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when he leaves come and be with me I' sure their are thngs we can do ?
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The real question is...how did you figure this out?
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Horrible. You will have to discuss this with him. Get tested for STDs. So sorry.
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pray she's gotten really fat.
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Thank you for the suggestions, love them all.. especially the one "pray shes gotten really fat" it made me laugh. I still have a couple weeks to figure something out.. I'll keep checking back for more suggestions Thanks!!
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Just let him see her... I'm a guy, I've done the same thing and my intentions were not for sex, it was simply to catch up with an old friend.
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If he's not up to anything, why hasn't he told his wife of his intentions? I say, show up and watch him. I say he is up to no good or he would have told her from the second he thought about contacting her.
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Ask him about it the second he walks in, the expression on his face will tell the truth.
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The fact he hasn't shared this would lead you to believe that he doesn't have the purest of intentions. There is no way I would be able to keep my mouth shut. You should talk to him about this before he has the opportunity to really f*** up his marriage.
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Pretend to be her, contact him and meet him. Damn the look on his face would be priceless!!
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I remembered the good things about my ex lover but the bad things faded. I met her for a weekend and all the reasons for our breakup surfaced. I rushed home and have never strayed since. My wife's radar knew the generalities and I filled in the rest for her.
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Confront him, and if that's what he wants, then leave.
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tell him if he doesn't wear condoms you'll cut his dick off.
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Perhaps have a little more faith in your man?
Just because he contacted her does not mean he will sleep with her. I would give him the benifit of the doubt, unless he has cheated before. Or ask him how she is when he gets home and read his face.
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Go spy on him
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It's time to start swinging...together.
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