then make a change! not only for him but for yourself too.
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Does for better or worse mean anything? I listened to my father call my mother a fat pig, b***h, ect...my whole life....not he is so fat he can't tie his own shoes. What goes around comes around!! I wish my husband would say 1 word about my weight! Is your husband a GQ man? Or does he have a few things that you could comment on? If it bothers you, then change it. Don't change it for someone else.
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Talk to him about how you feel; being heavy is unhealthy but to add the stress of possibly losing your husband to it only makes it worse.
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comment above... now he is so...I put not by mistake
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hmmmm......hmmmmmm....
I was married for 7 years to a woman that was bi-polar and had a tiny weight problem. We fought all of the time, not about weight but everything under the sun. Rollercoaster. Anyway she used to ask me if she was fat....I did't say yes and I didn't say no. I would tell her that she should exercise and change her diet if she was not happy with her weight. She would get violently angry with me and say "everyone tells me that" and she would go on and on. P.S. she liked fatty, fried, greasy foods. nothing wrong with that but......
anyway she was gaining weight over the years, never got too fat but with all of the fighting and bullshit I could not take it anymore. I was no saint at this point either, I think the situation started to feed upon itself, snowballing into disaster. I did not mind the weight issue, Im not perfect but everything else was sickening me and the relationship.
She is a really good person but I could not handle all of that. We are divorced now and we still talk once in a while and I would never say anything bad about her, I still care about her because she is still one of the best people I have ever known. If you have other issues in your life besides your weight, please address them, wether it is something in your relationship, past molestation, anything....just get healthy, in your mind and your body and your relationship
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I have a cousin who weighed 200 lbs when she got married. She is now 530!! That is so big!! Her husband is still there. He takes care of her. Cooks, cleans, ect...I'm not sayin it's right, but I am saying does everyone get married with the idea if you change I'm leavin? Seriously? The way my husband looks is not all that important in our everyday lives. Marriage, to my surprise and horror, is a lot of work. I don't have time to worry that he gained 20 lbs or lost a few hairs.
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Learn to put yourself on the list. You take care of everyone else...you are the most important one. Once you start to eat right and move your body your mind will clear and you will feel great. Peace be with you. I was you, he did leave.
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The point is that when you get married it should be for better or worse. It's just too easy to get divorced now, thanks to the laws of the state. There is no stigma like their used to be. It used to be a bad thing, now if you aren't divorced people automatically assume someone has to be cheating in that relationship if it's still together. Nobody ever thinks it's because they work at it and made a commitment before God. You made the decision to get married, you should make the decision to stay together...unless there is a abuse or unfaithfulness...but because someone doesn't look as good, how immature is that? There probably are reasons as to why the weight gain happened. Help find out what it is, and deal with the problem. I will pray for you and your marriage.
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I'm afraid of the same thing.
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