I hate to see things like this. I know a man who got caught doing something illegal like embessaling money and he got five years in prison. His wife died and left their 11 year old daughter in the care of the Aunt. The Aunt has permanent custody of her now and the girl doesn't want to see her father anymore. I was talking to the child and I told her to forgive and and to write him and when he gets out to sometimes visit him. He may not be perfect and he may not have any money but he still loves his child.
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I guess I must be. Because it appears I didn't do things right.
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I'm sure Pink Floyd does not appreciates a dead beat parent using that picture.
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us and them, but after all were just ordinary men
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say it to his face
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I hope you're considering the fact that the aunt and uncle could be brainwashing him. Get more involved and find out. Sounds like you could possibly be trying to get him back through sympathy. That will only add stress to his situation. Talk frankly with him and straighten out your act if necessary. Don't make promises you can't keep. Be honest. If it's a young child and they are "buying" his allegiance by providing material things that you can't or won't then it can be VERY difficult. Believe me, I've been there. Don't hold it against him if that's the case. Just stay in touch, stay involved and show him that you love him and that your love is forever no matter what he decides. Don't bad-mouth the aunt and uncle; it's counter-productive. Always be honest with him, never break a promise. If he is the most important thing in your life then treat him that way. These are some things I had to learn years ago the hard way. One thing I can't stress enough is to tell your son that you love him and hug him every chance you get. I was too "macho" to do that and I regret it every single day. He died from a drug overdose a few years ago and I would give my life just to hug him right now.
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We all choose what we go through. this is your sons experience too. Juut talk to him. Show him your heart. He'll come around if your willing to start the change. Oh! and put down the beat up stick it does not help in anyway!!
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