I know a girl who was 18 with 4 kids. No worries. You're not that bad.
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What? Youre supposed to have kids when youre young. Otherwise youll be older than a mug before theyre grown. Baby make on babymaker.
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This is probably because she is not the one taking care of the child... Her mom is.
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Is your mom the dad?
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Your mom is a b****.
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Sounds like (as someone wisely already stated) that your Mother is either letting you live with her or she is the one taking care of the children... or both. If this is the case then you are sad indeed. Responsibility builds character... get some. If for some reason you these things are not true and your Mother truly is just controlling... tell her to f*** right the hell off immediately. Make a pre-emptive strike and just disown her first.
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Don't have an abortion. I did when I was 19, and I'm 38 now. I regret it everyday.
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Can't feed 'em, don't breed 'em!
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Good for you. Dont ever do something just because your mom or dad want you too. You are a adult and its time you make our own choices.
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Shame on you, girl. Get yourself some birth control, damn. I've been sexually active for ten years without ever once becoming pregnant, and there's no reason you can't.
Here's a hint- the white stuff that comes out of the man's penis is the stuff that gets you pregnant.
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Perhaps what you did was not the most responsible thing to do. But it is not the baby's fault and you are doing the right thing by not aborting it. Don't lie to your mom, though, stand up for your baby and tell her. But, you need to move out right away...perhaps into the room with the baby's father. And think about getting married.
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its your life f*** her
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f*** your mom.. Do what you think is right for you.. not her
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next time, wrap that shit up.
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Three comments up, AMEN!! I have a 23 year old daughter who has a 2 year old and has lived in 5 different homes since the baby was born. She's a user through and through. Every single place she's been asked to leave. We all love the baby and she uses her like a bargaining chip. She thinks she can do anything she wants in other people's homes because each of us loves the baby. About a month ago, she started sleeping with a new baby daddy on their first date, knew him about 2 weeks. She lies all the time and tells people she's in college but she loves the welfare state too much for that to ever happen. I told her if she got pregnant again she would be on her own. The first time everyone was super supportive, but we're all wise to her now. She didn't learn anything last time. She couldn't even get diaper money out of the last guy. She moved in with us to go to school and I was watching her baby for her. She thought that her social life was more important than school or her baby, so now she's moving into her own place when she gets her tax refund. That's a hoot, she worked ONE WHOLE MONTH last year. My other 2 children are as normal as they come- this one just thinks she should be sble to party all the time on someone else's dime. She has no clue about how to be a mother and her poor child suffers every day because of her. She expects someone else to take care of her child while she does what she wants and then she plays the role of perfect mommy for about 15 minutes a day. If she stays out till 3 in the morning, she expects her baby to sleep all day with her, even though the baby wants to get up in the morning. I could go on all night. She's my dughter and I love her but I don't LIKE her at all.
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This is the OP: Actually, I live with my mother because I lost my apartment when I got laid off from my job. My mom is helping me out right now and I have to wait for my taxes to come because I dont have quite enough for my security deposit saved. I have always had a job, so I am not a deadbeat.
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OP again: My baby's father is also not a deadbeat. He works construction and had no work right now. He cannot stay with my mom because she hates him so he is staying in a room for now.
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my birth mother also refused to have an abortion, tried to keep me and then ended up giving me up for adoption. i wish she'd been smart enough to listen to her mother.
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You only get one tax refund a year and that's earmarked for your apartment deposit, so what are you going to do pay for your baby? Collect and take back aluminum cans? I guess Baby Daddy could be sperm donor. Oh wait. He already is -- for free.
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Have the baby and put it up for adoption.
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This is the OP: My mother hates the father of my children and yes right now I do live with her but i am moving out as soon as my taxes come in. My mother is just insane!
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there are lots of grown children that live w/ their parents- why try to abort the grandchild instead of kicking the child out first? the lady has to be insane! if my mother ever suggested aborting one of her future grandchildren, id disown her!
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God bless you for realizing and taking responsibility for that life in your body! If you're in your mother's house, get out as soon as you can. If you're responsible enough to hold life sacred, you're responsible enough to exist on your own. If it comes down to disowning her, you have made the right choice two times!
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That tax money willl never come... or I should say it'll come but will be spent on other things... yer with gramma for a looooong time if you don't go NOW and not "wait" for a bullshit excuse like tax money.... pfffft paaallleeeze
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Legalize 95th trimester abortions!!
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I did not read the other responses. Heres mine- It is YOUR choice. Your mother, father, sister, brother, ups delivery person, mailman, etc. does NOT get to make this choice. You, however, do. If MOM is going to disown you for having this child, why does she feel this way?
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You had better have more than just the deposit saved up. You will have to pay for everything yourself. If the father hasn't manned up and asked you to marry him yet, then he isn't that interested in getting stuck with either of you. Think about whether you can offer this child any kind of life. Quality is more important than quantity. There is nothing wrong with admitting you made a mistake, but there is a lot wrong if you bring a life into this world and you can't protect or support it.
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great! another baby-pumping daddy-issues slut, just what the world needs!
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Your kid, your problem. Your child will thank you some day if they find out the truth. Keep it.
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I an also 23 wit 2 beautiful daughters n my man n mother don't get along either don't worry ur doing the right thing by keeping the baby n ignore all these stupid ppl telling u to abort things might not be ideal but I will get better remember things happen 4 a reason n god gave u that baby wit a cause n purpose!
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Why is it at 24 that your mother has so much control over you? Grow up - you're an adult and you don't owe your mother any answers!
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