You made the vows 'for better or worse'. When you said those vows, did you not mean them? Was it just a hollow sentiment? Did you say "For better or for worse", and cross your fingers behind your back when you said "worse"?
Because if so, then your marriage was always a farce.
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You've known him 1 day and he is wonderful - bet you thought that about your husband when you met him. Try not to be so shallow.
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did you kiss his peepee?
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Life is too short to be miserable.
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Then end up with nothing. Get out of the marriage and be happy.
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Been there done that-left my marriage for alot of reasons and hoped to be with a wonderful man i met-now i am alone
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So ask God to fix it! Seriously, you're doubting your past judgment and you're doubting your current judgment as well. See a trend? What I've learned (and it's scriptural) is to leave it to God. "You have not, 'cause you ask not". So tell Him that you're pissed that you're stuck with a guy that He put you with and that now He's (GOD) rubbing it in your face with this new guy. But make it His problem to get you out. Know what's gonna happen? 1) He'll turn your marriage around or 2)He'll get you out of it in a way that was better than any way you could have done yourself. Seriously, you won't have the doubt if you let God work in your life. In the meantime, honor God by trying to honor your covenant to love your husband. If you can't do that (I'm not saying it will be easy) then you need to walk closer to God for strength. After all, God actually wants you to be tighter with Him, than with your husband. Your husband is in your life to complement you and vice versa, but the real relationship to seek is with the Big Man Upstairs. God will take your hubby out to the woodshed if He has to, 'cause you're doin' your part and recognizing who's really in control of your life.
Good luck!
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I've been there... met the most amazing guy. and even did the big "no-no" and had an affair. Fell in love with him... he finished my sentences but I have 3 children with my husband so I stayed. Now, I still resent my husband for being a weakling and begging me to stay and threatening to kill himself. Over a year later, I still dream about the other guy
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you could end up with happiness
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It sounds like your husband has made you a good living and you've gotten accustomed to the perks obtained by the labor of a successful man. You are leaching off of his success and looking for greener pastures. Do him a favor, pack your clothes and leave him for the other guy. You don't deserve any of the trappings he has provided you with. Maybe the "wonderful man" will work as hard as your husband has to provide the material things you will miss if you leave. You can't have your cake and eat it too!
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Grow up. Don't you guys think you have to work at marriage? Sometimes you have to work at love. Try it if your going to stay. Why not make it work for the best. Figure out how to be your mates best friend again. You might be surprised. Good luck xoxoxoxo
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Depends on how you're measuring... Broke and happy looks pretty good.
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OP and the other woman who feels the same way.
They are your feelings and your life.
The others who are judging you have no idea what you mean, they are just spouting their rhetoric.
I know exactly what you're talking about. It's not easy and may take years to build a new life for yourself but don't give up.
Do what's good for you! Have faith in yourself too, which is so hard when it seems like you can't do it.
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put out or get out
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you sound spoiled. guy you met in one day is wonderful? huh! get a job...
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And what do you have if you DON'T get a divorce?
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better to be alone than to be in misery! you said you would have nothing if you left. What do you have now?
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I sure divorced my ex wife. Lifes too short to be bound by some absurd vows.
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I don't get it. Are you bragging or complaining?
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I am the OP. Not bragging about anything, and not necessarily complaining either. I am just stuck...and dont know what to do. I dont love my husband anymore...he is difficult and gone all the time. I have cheated, and now I am dishonoring him, but I am afraid to end up alone. I certainly would not look to another man to save me.
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I feel that same way. Neither my husband or myself are the same people that we were when we got married. But we have 3 children and I am very afraid to do that alone. So instead i live a very unhappy life with a beautiful smile plastered on my face.
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Looks like some people can't handle the cold hard truth of the first comment. Sometimes the truth is hard to take but I have to agree. What's the point in taking vows if they mean nothing to you? I don't get it.
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