probably didnt figure it out until after hubby beged for a 3some?
happened to me!
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hey listen I am in the same boat except i only have one child. I know what I am and honestly so does my husband, we just decided to keep our family together for our child. My childs happiness comes before my happiness.
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I understand ... same thing. I'd rather be with a woman than a man. I just don't like them much. It took me a long time to de-program myself. Now I am just alone. Can't stand men pretty much, but can't bring myself to go looking for a woman. Tried it, it was awkward to talk to lesbians who've been that way forever, and like "hey, would you like to give this a try?" Actually I've already been in bed with a woman (once), but give a relationship a try. I really desire to be with a woman as a partner as well.
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I am a man in the same boat as you. It hurts.....it truly does.
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I am also in the same situation. I love my husband but not like that. I just had a two year relationship with a girl. He knows Everyone knows, except my kids. I was leaving him , but i feel so trapped my kids are young. something made me stay. I am so in love with my ex-girlfriend. I am sick inside. Part of me wants to die. It has been three months. I will never make it.
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dido...does anyone know of a lesbian website women can talk to each other about this. I really feel all alone
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whatever. stop blaming the kids already> I m sick of parents saying they cant leave bc of the kids! PEOPLE this is not the 40's anymore! It might be hard but single parents are taking care of children and doing it well! YES it may cause a little emotional trauma, but no more than the average school bully will impose on the kids before they get high school. If you want to leave him because u are gay, GO FOR IT. Do you know how horrible it is for him to be in love with you and not knowing that the feeling is not reciprocated? To not know that he is not enough for you?? YOu are wasting his time, he could be with someone who loves him equally. EVEN if there is no love and the ONLY reason is the kids, thats a sad excuse! What exactly are your fears for the kids? Do you think they won't be upstanding adults bc u two divorced? Do you think they will judge u for being gay? Do you think he will fight for full custody? Do you think they will snap and kill up a bunch of people bc their parents divorced?! ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN and whaterver u are worried about can be avoided. STOP BEING A COWARD and blaming it on the kids,
Women who get beat say they cant leave bc of the kids... BULLSHIT. IF ANYTHING YOU SHOULD BE JETTING AWAY FOR THE KIDS. Please understand that kids grow up, they will not forever be 4 yrs old. They live a life and grow into an adult when one day they understand. You leaving will not make them make sad choices in men or women or do anything drastic. What you do in the aftermath will. When you finally 'man up' and leave already, don't ignore them. Don't bring random women home. Don't fall in love for every one that u meet. Don't beat them, don't neglect. Don't make stupid decisions that they can witness. DO be a responsible parent. Your kids will be OK. NOT BEING A B_TCH! TOUGH LOVE sweetheart! Whats the point in living a lie???! WAKE UP! XOXOXO, BETTY G.
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As a woman, you have an advantage over a man; you can fake an orgasm.
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sounds like to me she made her choice to stay with the kids and family. I personally do not feel this is a bad thing as long as hubby is aware of it all..... Maybe they all can have ome fun together!
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After 15 years of marriage my hubby and i both came out to each other we are still togther and very HAPPY !!
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Why don't you tell him you want a threesome I'm sure he'll like that.
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wow How does a lesbian get pregnant? Are you telling me you didn't enjoy even one time that caused you to get knocked up? Your husband will be glad to know you used him.
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Another borderline disfunctional family in the making...
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I know some family people who went "gay" in middle age. What an absolute mess. Good luck.
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I am a guy and in the same boat. I figured it out late. But, love my wife and kids and not going to ruin their lives.
Find yourself a girlfriend to make your life complete... Just keep in mind your family should always come first.
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I'm straight. I always enjoy being with gay friends. You feel trapped, tell your husband. He may be more understanding than you expect. He may already know. I would agree your kids are happier when the parents are happy and secure.
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yeah kids are affected by many things INCLUDING vibes, body language and the thoughts you put together. if you go around tip-toeing all your life your kids will be tip-toers. It's abstract at best but there are more ways to learn than spoken word and we all know it. Just open up to the world!
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You've got to be happy and healthy. If you are not then you can't reach your potential in life.
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i to am kinda in the same boat, but i would just like to have flings with a women, but my husband would never go along with it, he is much to jelous, even though he could join in with us, it would never happen, i have done it before i was married but live a constant lie saying that i never have...he's crazy for not wanting it, i dont understand some men
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I was there too. But, I finally "came out" to myself and had to leave him. Your kids are happier when you are happiest. And...joint custody is wonderful!
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About websites: I know Myspace has a lesbian moms page and I think Yahoo has lesbian mom clubs.
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You are no lesbian, you are a frustrated, deprived person with severe guilt. But, there's hope im communication. You just need to get "channeled" correctly, so to speak.
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This doesn't only happen to women, but, unlike gay women and straight men, gay men will befriend straight women, ever wonder why that is? Here's why: Gay women are afraid of straight men, and jealous, it's called 'penis envy' and, they see identifying themselves as a 'man' as a way to show power over a world wherein they feel helpless. Basically we all have ideas of sex with the same sex, it's just a natural fact. This is why love and sex are two totally different things. We have sex to pro-create, we love to feel close to someone. Eventually, maybe in a hundred years, humanity will realize that being 'gay' is completely self-serving and makes no-one happy except yourself. After all, many of you think that your being 'gay' and leaving your husband/wife would cause your children to be unhappy, right? Being 'gay' is a natural human social attitude that we have when we want someone to show they care about us instead of concentrating on how well we demonstrate how much we care about others...that's the true difference between being 'gay' and 'straight' and it is brought on by the fear that we will never find someone to give us what we want, when most of the time we have no clue what we want but the other person will give us what we need (only what we truly need). So, "gay" people, stop being selfish and invest those feelings and emotions into communicating with your wife or husband and you'll find a much better and rewarding relationship, one where the 'fruits' of your love are the greatest beings on the face of the earth...your children.
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I'm sorry to say but the fault of your situation is all yours. If you were honest with yourself from day one none of it would have happened.
Your husband and children are the victims not you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and either open up to your husband and children and tell them and possibly ruin your family or continue to live the lie you chose to live.
Its people like you that give homosexuals a bad name.
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You're right to stay.
Some people think that "feelings" give them license to ignore the effect their actions will have on others. This is not true. People do it anyway, but that doesn't make it the right thing to do.
You're responsibility to your children trumps your desire to be with a woman.
As a previous comment mentioned, you set up this situation on your own and now you have to deal with the consequences.
It may suck in some ways, but if you leave your family, you will find that the substitute will never fill the hole you create . . . and your kids will never truly recover from your selfish act.
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