I'm sorry you are wrong. You should forgive just as Christ has forgiven you. Think about it. You justly deserve hell too, but we have the grace of God! Forgive and be set free!
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revenge is best served cold.
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Hopefully it will get better. I can sympathize with you. I'm 32 years old and from the age of 2, my stepdad did things to my sister and I. He turned my mother against us and there was no way she didn't know what was going on. For goodness sake, there was a peep hole in the wall and we were forced to keep the shower curtain open. To this day, we never speak of it and keep the peace for our younger half siblings. I'm not so sure he didn't do it to his own daughter, to this day she is suicidal and no one "knows" why. Now that we've all distanced ourselves from my mom, my mom simply says she didn't know what was going on and she should have left him because he was "mentally" abusive towards her. Always about her. Needless to say they are still married and I have to see him every holiday and pretend nothing happened.
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So she knew what was happening. In that case take advantage of the holidays and bring it all out on the table. To bottle your emotions inside is not fair to you or your siblings. Lets this upcoming year be a fresh start for you. If you do not comfront them you will always have that hatred in your heart which on victim should carry around. Let the people who are responsible for there actions know that they are worthless sucm of the earth that is not even fit to be the dirt on the bottom of your shoe. Make yourself clear and direct and make on with your life. You can choose to turn your back and never speak to them agian. We are all responsible for our own lives as adults reguardless fo the past. The question is are you ready to accept that. Thank you for sharing and I hope that your heart will be healed.
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Could you be my big sister?......he hurt me and you knew and you were the oldest..in charge when they went to work, yet you repeatedly hurt your little sis and brothers and yet, never took any responsibility...now our brother is dead. He never had a chance because you kept the secret even after I told. You denied what I told. It took years for you to remember, now you seek revenge by your GOD towards mother?...Didn't you know she was her mom's personal prostitute ....How can you not forgive? If you throw stones better not live in a glass house Linda......you little sis
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dont leave things in the hands of god
its you turn you are old enough
dont be as bad but its time for her to realize what she has done and come to terms that she was no real mother of yours
she needs to see that she was always wrong and needs to change or leave her a** alll alone
tell your siblings
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You will never have peace until you forgive and move on. Yes, it was bad !! The pain will never stop until YOU let it go. Forgive them and forgive yourself. It was NOT YOUR FAULT...........
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Have you ever heard of Joyce Meyer? If not, google her name. She was able to forgive her own father for what he did. She forgave her mother who knew what he was doing. She is a great teacher of the Bible. Through God she shows you how to forgive and live a life with peace. With her help I was able to forgive my grandfather, and my parents who let a 50 yr old drunk sleep in a 9 yr olds bedroom.
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Don't lie. Be honest. Learn to use your pain.
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Don't be a statistic, don't be a victim; be a survivor, I am and it was the best decision I ever made.
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Once again, if it didn't happen to you, you can't know how we feel. At 48 I tell people close to me "I hate my mother" they don't get it. To this day she says "He was a good father". She was there, buried in her bible, there is no way she didn't know what was going on. I hate my mother.
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This is so sad and I'm sorry for your pain. What happened to you was NOT YOUR FAULT. I never understand how mothers Can stand by and do nothing while their children are being molested. They themselves must be horribly tormented and disfunctional in order to not protect their children. Never-the-less, you are an adult now, and the hatred you hold towards your mom and abuser will only continue to hold you in a prison of bitterness. You are worth being free from your pain by forgiving those who have hurt you.
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