That is why marriage is an obsolete institution....I would rather live with someone that stays because they want to not because the certificate says they legally have to....just remeber if you have a joint bank account....THE FIRST ONE TO THE BANK WINS..so keep a househould account and put equal money in from both...and keep separate accounts for personal funds.....
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You should meet more people! Lots of people we know are happily married to the right people.
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I have met very few who are truly happy. Seems couples start taking each other for granted
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^or they never really knew each other as they thought they did, this happens a lot.
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^ so you think ha, be surprised what goes on behind close doors. Married 12yrs no one knew how horrible our life was, not family, friend, no one!! Everyone was blown away when they found out we didn't have that picture perfect relationship as they all saw. Its easier to be inlove and happy around others then admit you made a BIG mistake!
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I believe that marriage is the leading cause of divorce in this country.
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^ your so funny I forgot to laugh! The leading cause for divorce is you don't know really whom your marring instead you marry this image you hold in your heart and you spend years trying to make that image a reality before you realize its all been a lie. A roller coaster ride that will drain the life from you emotionally and mentally.
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^yo! 3^pair bonding has been around since before humans came on the stage, and the formal ritual of pair bonding before the community nearly as long, it's not going anywhere. What we are experiencing now is a tiny blip of human existence and says more about the nature of civilization than it does about the nature of humans.
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Your Marriage is what you Make it. Communication is the key to unlocking what it will actually take to get what you both want. Once you communicate what is and isn't working for you then make the effort to change it, THAT is the key it's the effort the other person and yourself puts forth in the relationship. Effort show you do still care and have love for the other. No effort means you don't care. If you tell yur husband you need something and he shows no effort...well...I am sorry for you and our marriage :( Vice versa.
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^also I want to say that just because you want someone to change something doens't always mea they will, however it is enough for me if they show me that they want to change because they love me I know I hav done my best and failed MANY times but my husband understand and sees my efforts to make myself better and I see his efforts also. Just do your best and take care of yourselves and eachother. good Luck to all of you in unhappy marriages, they ill get happy again so long as you make the effort to make it that way :)
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*unrealistic
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It's because we have too many psychokillers...say something once, why say it again? run run run away
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My marriage sucks
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Marriage will go the way of the 8 track. Honour, integrity, gentility on the way out too.
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1 up. I agree. As much as I like my internet, I think that has a lot to do with it.
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Everyone has problems and life is painful; otherwise, we wouldn't appreciate it. Being on cloud 9 all the time is impossible and not really desirable. Metaphorically speaking, "The higher the mountain, the lower the valley". Achieving satisfaction from life is not about trying to to feel good all the time; it is about finding balance. We all feel good and bad at different times; this is just part of being human.Marriage is not exempt from this. If it was easy, it would have no value.
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Marriage is an institution that will put you in one !!!!
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I didn't vote up/dn but my wife
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What a very inrealistic perspective. Marriage should have some beautiful and loving moments but realize it will also have boring, angry, terrifying, difficult, and painful moments as well. People that seem like it's bliss all the time are likely lying and cheating on their spouses because they can't clean up their own shit.
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6^ that's awesome. But making marriage takes more then a choice you have to feel it, you said you n yours are in love that's what it takes. You can love many but you have no control who you heart falls in love with. Most poeple mistake the excitement in the beginning of a relationship as being in love instead of keeping their head on straight and listening to what their own heart is saying and follow that! When its from the heart its easy to love, love walks through fire without being burned. love doesn't look elsewhere for love there's no need when you already have it. The heart will tell you many things if your willing to listen, most people don't even know the heart speaks so forget about trying to listen.
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2 up....wtf is an inrealistic perspective? but, I agree with your post, fully. All those la-ti-da ppl are having afairs(prolly gay ones)!!!
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it's true, you can over look stuff and forgive............to a point. However, it takes both parties to want the marriage to work........
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^ LOL. Op. I totally agree with you. Most people I know think their marriage is just something they are kinda trapped in and too costly to end. If any single person want to know what marriage ends up being just look at people who date. They sit together in the car, hold hands while walking, etc. Within a year of marriage all that is gone.
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2 up. You're so retarded your opening joke was stupid and made no sense.
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^ ouch.. Did that sting..sorry wasn't trying to hurt your feelings but seriously marriage is not a joke and you were just being a smart a** 8 )
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I've got it!! 23 years married! We are still on our honeymoon! But we chose to be happy. It's a choice. We chose to overlook each others faults and lift each other up. Raising our girls and enjoy being together!
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NOBODY is happy with their spouse 24/7! But, after 27 years we still hold hands while walking into a store and we sit together on the couch and play games on the computer when we can. We had our kids, they are now married with kids and we're young grandparents. It's awesome. Sure we have arguments sometimes.. THAT'S NORMAL. But what's NOT normal is to bail the second things get bad. That's just life.. You keep going and before you know it, it's good again.
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Sometimes spouses can't be reformed and sometimes biology changes women too
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