^that is stupid. you don't know the situation. my lover helps me through life. if it wasn't for him, yeah i would be in a worse place. i feel he likes helping me out, that is what friends are for. and no i am not the op but yeah, an escape artist i can be
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Your balance is obtained through him. His balance could be obtained through another aspect of the relationship. IF his balance is not then expect it to end soon. Give
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That chick looks familiar.
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Wow. So it's your bf's job to keep YOU sane? Yes, you should thank him and do him a favor by ending it with him so that he won't have to suffer from your extreme self centeredness and desire to be a complete escape artist. Good people deserve to be with other good people and the realtionship a mutual give and take. Not one person keeping the other person sane and sober. Seriously though, I am not surprised by this post... all drunks are like this!
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2^It's not a JOB. It's a privilege and honor.
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I call bull shit. And what is it you are doing for your boyfriend in return? What are you contributing that makes the relationship balanced and mutual? Let's face it, you are using him for you drug of choice at the moment and that really sucks. Priveledge and honor my ass. This is called codependancy and no relationship can thrive in this dynamic. I give you both 6 months or less. The OP will decide that getting high and f***ing another person is needed to keep them 'sane'.
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2^ I call bullshit. You're transferring negativity from a conflict in your life to this secret. It's not as good a fit as you're trying to make it. BTW, what is the opposite of codependency? Can you name a few other types of dependency? It seems to me that every relationship worth having is based upon mutual or inter dependency.
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2^ wow that sounds familiar.
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8^ No, you can't. Transactional analysis is the best tool I've found for analyzing relationships, and it requires a degree of closeness and observation. What you can and have done is to make assumptions based on your past experience. The trouble with that is, you are not part of this relationship.
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Oh, you are the one who wants to get drunk and high, who depends on your BF to keep you sane (instead of doing it for yourself) and we are the ugly negative people here - yaaaaaah right.
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^No man or woman is an island, fool. Only sociopaths are emotionally self-contained and independent.
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^not talking about emotionally self contained asshat... talking about being emotionally balanced enough to not have to make another person responsible for your emotional well being so that you don't get drunk or high!
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I have the same desire, but I always refrain from doing so. I think it's because I'm afraid of becoming an addict like both of my uncles.
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2^actually emotionally self-contained is exactly what you were talking about douchewad...
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OP..(con't)
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OP..(con't)I'm not a druggie or drunk. I'm a parent, an exec at a prestigious college and haven't had a drop of even beer in over 3 years. My point to this was that my BF makes me a better person. He keeps me level. He has had past issues that he no longer struggles with and his knowledge and understanding leads me to make better choices in my life. Life can overwhelm you sometimes and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. He is my light. I am his
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OP..(con't)I am his
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I am his
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I am his cheerleader in everything he wants to do. I support him in any way I can to show my appreciation for all he does. It works. We're happy. We have been for over a year and will be for many more. Please don't judge based on your own past and experiences. Not everyone is bad.
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i wouldnt worry too much about what these jack-legs have to say about your "secret".
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The opposite of codependency is interdependence where each person in the relationship is independent yet mutually willing and able to contribute to the whole of the relations. That is not happening where one person is relying on the other for sanity and ehem *cough* a substitution for getting f***ed up.
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^Then I stay with my statement. You can't judge co or inter from this distance. You think you see one side, but even if you do there's another.
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i like your hair color em.
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the shoes are nice too.
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3^ You can judge it if you have been around these types of people enough. You just know this is how it is.
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OP here.. wow for the negative people you really are sad excuses for human beings.
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