If you are a woman your situation is not unusual. I too could not orgasm with making love alone . I need clitoral stimulation myself . if you are comfortable with your partner then discuss it with him . Touch yourself while making love . It works for me . If you are a man though I cannot help sorry .
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you didnt say if you could get yourself off. Get there first, be comfortabel with that, then help yourself during sex.
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Don't count on a partner to give you your first. It never works. Get a vibrator. Commit to yourself to try to masterbate every day. Try different things with it. Watch different things. Think about different things. It will take a while, but taking your own sexuality "into your own hands" is a better bet then waiting for a partner to do it, particularly when you don't know how to do it yourself. It worked for me...
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Every girl I know is this way. It's no big deal. You'll find that most guys love to play with toys on you and just relax and have fun.
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I agree with 3 up. Try different things. My ex wife could not climax with just penetration. Oral and vibrators would turn her inside out.
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If Monument Valley doesn't do it for you then you may be out of luck....
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Why don't you try having sex with a whole football team, that might work.
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It's all about the clitoris sister. Most woman cannot climax from penetration alone and need some external stimulation. Just gently rub your clitoris while having sex (doggy style works best for this) and once you find the right pressure, motion, and constancy, you will most certainly have an orgasm. Just don't stress out about it 'cause that will make it more difficult to have one.
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tell your partner
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I know this is out there a bit, but if all the suggestions here do not work, try an evening with another woman. I was in your situation once. Out of curiosity slept with a woman. amazing!
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i fake it.. it makes him happy and i can get to sleep sooner.. go with it.
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Call him at work tell him what you want to do to him and what you want him to do to you.When he gets home kiss him and suck on his tongue a little while u rub his penis,u know the little things, later in bed ever so slowly kiss, fondle, play. Build up to it get yourself so hot that by the time he rubs ur clit or tongues u it takes ur all to not cum on the spot.Lick, suck, rub, you'll get there just start slow build up to it. You can even wet ur own fingers and play with yourself throughout the day thinking of what's to come.I even play with myself while hubbie does me drives him crazy.Get him to eat u then let him drive it home and just have him be still while he watches u play with urself, if that doesn't do it ...well i just don't know.Damn I should of been a sex therapists.
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I think there are ALOT of assumptions here. Let's clearify: Are you a man or a woman, and are you having sex with someone?
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i agree with most posts on here to a T actually, it too me a LONG time to teach myself how to have an orgasm, cumming isn't the same as an orgasm either to me. I am female, by the way. I can make myself cum, but not really have an orgasm most times unless i have someone or something help me. I personally think that an orgasm is a state of mind, think about the things that make you hot, and focus on the tightening of the muscles, because that is really what an orgasm is, the involentary contrations/spasms of muscles. well at least to me, when i spasm uncontrollably ( which ususally only happens when i focus tighten myself as much as i can so my gspot squishes itself), and concentrate on it, getting f***ed by someone/something or not ( although SOMETHING touching my gspot sure helps a LOT), i need clitoral stimulation to make my head go into the clouds, my eyes roll into the back of my head. It is a lot like an endorphine rush for me actually, EPIC. Good luck! try different things, and keep at it, i coudln't do it for years and now, i can actaually squirt sometiems when i cum when i am in the right state of mind with the right stimulus
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you should meet my lover....2,3,hell sometimes 4 and even just 1 that is as big as the universe. you really have to be into that person and trust them,and they can't be frail.:0
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YOU are responsible for your own orgasm. Practice makes perfect! You will NEVER have one with a partner until you are comfortable having one with yourself, make peace with your sexuality and it will happen!
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As most people have stated here, you might need to stimulate yourself while making love, or let your partner do it if you are comfortable with that. I cannot reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation during sex, if it's just penetration. Or let your partner give you oral sex, as that can also make you reach orgasm. Be comfortable with yourself, your body, and your lover and let yourself relax and not think of it too much during sex, as that can also lead to not having one. And you will know when you have one... it feels amazing. My legs tremble right before I am about to. You will know. good luck hun!
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Being on top, almost flat on top of him, seems to work for me sometimes. (helps to have some traction for your feet)
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call me. i will make it all better
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