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I don't feel any strong connections. Not to my parents, my wife, or our child. I don't care about myself. I don't feel anything I'd call love, only obligations.

I don't feel any strong connections. Not to my parents, my wife, or our child. I don't care about myself. I don't feel anything I'd call love, only obligations.

 
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Then you have become a zombie. Are you taking any SSRI's? If so, get off of them and get into some therapy and find some feeling and passion in your life or I predict you will off yourself or someone else within a year.
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I've felt this way for well over a decade. No cravings to eat brains, no drugs, virtually no alchohol, no homicidal impulses. I consider suicide selfish and something only the weak would do (plus the obligations), so that isn't likely either.
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Welcome to the club
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oh so sad. nothing compares to a love connection, whether it be with a spouse, children or parents. i hope you find those loving feelings. good luck.
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Sociopath
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you jack-off to much.
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It is a Buddha moment! The realization that you don't need it anymore and it is okay. Let go of it and allow the detachment to occur. The attachment is what keeps you from reaching enlightenment.
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classic case of depression
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^ sure, but trying to get help for it might do some good, or just waste money on the upside. on the other hand, it will definately do plenty of harm once I have a diagnosed mental defect. there goes some rights, clearances, and licenses.
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^Crazy person
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Sounds like some form of depression to me, the numbness to any kind of deep feelings.
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Dude, I feel your pain. I went through the same thing. Was diagnosed with depression and am on meds for that but, those empty emotions are STILL there. Maybe desensitized is the correct description.
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Desensitized: you just dont FEEL IT like other people do, Your mind is so damn rational and detached from the stuff going on around you, that you dont over react, or get over dramatic about anything. On a high note, when a real crisis happens, you will be the one to get out alive, because you will not go to pieces...
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^Sorry emotional flatliners, nobody gets out alive. Might as well try to find some joy, or bring some joy while you're here. Would you want your child to grow up to be as desensitized and feeling you are an "obligation" later in life.
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Hey, dont sweat it bub, some of us just dont FEED the DRAMA LAMMA like everyone else seems too...
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You have a MASSIVE shield around you. Your lack of connection is a choice you made. Most likely the brain and body respond this way due to expereince of pain, therfore your mind protects you by feeling less for people. especially people you don't know. I know tyhat you Care for your children and your wife, just think about it. I can relate to this because I lack connection to everyone except my children and husband but then I am a woman so I think it's easier for me to feel connected to them but as for everyone else I am extremly distant and let nobody close and could realy carelessabout them. It's lonely.
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sociopath is the correct word, you can get help. If you are a man sometimes it just comes over you between 35 and 45 when the wires connect and it all hits you at once
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How is this a sociopath? Sociopaths are manipulative and don't care if they hurt people they show no remorse for anything. this guy just says he can't feel the connection. but maybe if he saw his child laying underneath a cars back tire he may be jolted?! Who knows.
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Welcome to desensitization Sir. It happens to people who have had to bear many burdens, or endure hardass shit that would break the will of lesser souls... You "manufacture" feelings but you really could give a damn less...
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OP again. not overly burdened or truamatized, loving home yada yada yada... Its not that I don't care, its that I don't care all that much (2 sizes too small...) The death of my grandmother didn't hit me as hard as it should have, and I doubt a death in my more imediate family would affect me at a normal level either. When others would lose thier heads with emotion, I will remain rational for the most part. My emotions are all there, they are just muted. I've been this way as long as I can remember, but it became much pronounced in my late teans and has been getting more noticable ever since. When my wife is holding our daughter, but she wants me to hold her, I think "why me? your Mom really loves you."as far as being a sociopath, no, but who knows if just a few things might have been different in my past...ps. a true sociopath would probably not feal a need to unburden himself of his innermost secret.
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You are not alone ! I have lived 62 years of rejection from having no Father. Mother's rejection. Love of my life has a affair with her girl friend husband during her fling treats me terrible. After a while the feeling just go.My hope is after this life is over I will be in heaven walking on streets of gold and a peace that surpassses all understanding. Hang on do a day at aa time !!
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