OP here: thank you. I'm glad I'm not the only one, 1st commenter, it makes me feel less alone about feeling this way. and 2nd commenter, your words really do help me feel a lot better, thankyou. :)
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I'm the same, I need help too...:(
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You know what? Thisa society is f***ed up. The values are crazy. There is no room for free thinkers and those who are more sensitive. Don't feel wrong becuase of what you are or feel. Continue to reach out. Hopefully you will meet others that are compatable with you. Don't conform to the crazy mean.
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999 more islands and you can have a salad.
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I'm a very shy person but I can be social when necessary. But it took years for me to be able to act confidently in a social setting. I started off by making eye contact and smiling at ppl. Then I read somewhere that the key to not looking like a social retard is to ask ppl questions about themselves and do a lot of nodding and smiling. That way, other ppl do all the talking and they'll think you're a nice person for being interested in them. Don't know if that'll help but it doesn't hurt to try...
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I nod and smile to bullshitters.
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It's true about asking questions. People enjoy "teaching" others things they feel confident about. I used to think I was alone, but I am lucky to have family and supportive friends. I came to the conclusion I was more like a peninsula. Not an island, but pretty close. Find your link to land, OP. Make a bridge if you have to. While I'm not a fan of most "mainstream" American pasttimes, you have to find something you can at least tolerate. This is cheesy, but the easiest bonding experience is to get into a popular TV show. A current one. I used to date a girl I met on the Internet. We'd talk on the phone and chat and such, even met up over the four years before we went to college together. Anyway she told me all about Dawson's Creek and I used that knowledge to connect with girls at high school. Most I am still friends with tho I rarely see them. Live in a different city now. Other avenues to explore: sports, clubs, public transportation, new job, frequenting a local business. The Internet will inevitably depress you. Seek out someone charismatic and you might learn from them. While alcohol can get you into trouble, small use of it can grease the wheels, socially speaking.
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I feel the same exact way as you. I want to be social and have friends and go out and have fun but I just cannot connect enough with other people to trust them. Im afraid my whole life will slip away with me just sitting here alone everyday. Its sad but also very hard to make friends. I think the hardest thing about making friends is that you have to put yourself on the line and make youself vonurable which is scary, but what helps is to constantly reminding yourself all the positive things about yourself and that you are very worthy of other peoples love and friendship
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What's for supper, bi tch?
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