There is a saying something about green grass. Look it up.
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Don't destroy your marriage, you're only cheating for the novelty of it, you'll get tired of her too after a while. Your wife will wipe your ass when you get old, will your 25 y/o gf do that?
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yeah, go with the true love guy! the wife will find one too. CHANGE IS GOOD
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^2, so you are lucky, now go mind your own business
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^i would, i love my lover with all my heart, never loved anyone like that. i would sh*t for him too. i want to serve him forever, and only him.
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^2 hang in there,he will be with you in the long run, the children will grow up, i can't stand the thought of moving on, why, just to be thinking of him anyhow.
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^oh you must be GOD, a little deep wench without knowing all situations, go touch yourself!
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^so what are you going to do? go with your soulmate and ask God for forgivness, he will you know......
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ohhh, this is complicated...can i ask if your girlfriend knows about the seperation?
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^4 yeah, when you are together on the same page everytime you are together. it's not just sex......
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yeah when you tackle a project of organizing or cleaning, it's then you know you are one. no talk just harmony to achieve something. it happened one day, we just worked together like bees building a beehive. i guess time will tell.
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^2 and whatz that gotta to do with it?????
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^you're the dumbass,dumbass, you better know what you are posting idiot.
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people on here are so judgemental, It has been proven that human beings just like most animal species are NOT MONOGAMUS......yes you can love two or even more people at once.....unfortunately it is hard to find the right mate to be POLYmoraus with.Society has brainwashed us since we were children....I made the decision with my second wife to tell her up front that we would live an alternate lifestyle and she was all IN and it was wonderful, she didn't have to go behind my back to cheat or lie..not fights over boyfriends or dates...she let me watch many times and then she would go on dates and come home with "present" and hot details. I loved her more when she played and I also loved her adopted sister, as well as an married gf from years before, I was totally devoted to and loved my wife more and more with our lifestyle.....
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you can't "love your wife"....unless slipping your dick into someone else's vag is how you show your wife how much you "love" her. it sounds like you just don't want to be married but are such a COWARD you won't leave. probably because your wife would take you to the cleaners and you would lose everything you have spent thirty years building.....which is why you lie in the first place. you are a pathetic excuse for a man, i wonder why either woman would settle for such a PUSSY!!!
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i represent the girlfriend, i wish my lover would have me for the rest of my life. perhaps his wife is not happy either, let her have a chance at a second love....
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ah the hell with the scorned women above, go with true love
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^i am not scorned, i am happily married to a wonderful man so i consider myself lucky! it's guys like this douchebag who give men a bad name. their are a lot of men AND woman who remain faithful because they are truly in love. i can't imagine having to look into my husband eyes and to lie to him because i was with another man, it would be like torture. the op has every right to be happy, BUT MAN UP FOR CHRIST'S SAKE!!!! stop lying like the pathetic piece of shIt you are and be honest. it's not fair to your wife!
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^ I am there with you. I have tried to move on and forget him so many times, but he is my heart. There is a huge piece of me missing. I hope yours chooses true love, mine has chosen his children. He doesn't want them growing up in a broken home like he did. His wife cheated on him, they seperated, I come around, and suddenly the kids are in hell. I love kids! She can go! I don't know what to do anymore, but I wish you the best.
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Choose Love!!!!!!!! Chose the person you are happy with, that you can bare your soul to!!!!
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^ now Charles, thats terrible, 2 men !!!
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^^ 2 up....you have no heart....your crotch makes all your decisions !!
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30 YEARS FROM NOW U'LL GET TIRED OF HER2!!! THATS JUST HOW IT IS
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if you have to ask, you love neither
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never settle
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TO OP: can you give us an update?
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Do your wife a favor: leave her and pay her lifetime alimony. You breached your contract with her and she deserves better than you.
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Phuck 'em both !!!
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I can't judge you bc I date two men and i have feelings for both one of which is married. They know nothing of each other..but only you can decide what you need to do..people are flawed and situatons aren't always ideal.But sometimes the heart decides for us..
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^ definitley! i hope neither have children, o'h what are they teaching them?? if you tell your self they don't know, your even more of a fool then your post portrays!!
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some of you people just dont get it. i think you all need to evaluate your on love
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^84 dumbAss
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^86 double dumbAss
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YOU WILL SOON TIRE OF THE GIRLFRIEND AND MOVE ON TO ANOTHER, IT IS THE THRILL OF THE FORBIDDEN, YOU WOULD PROBABLY BE DOING YOUR WIFE A FAVOR, BUT THINK ABOUT THIS, YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS PROBABLY ALSO GOING TO MOVE ON ONCE YOUR HERS, YALL ARE BOTH JERKS
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sounds like your making things up...of course you are choosing this love, cuz Love feels good in any form. Your love now is new and diffrent and that is why it feels so bright, you didn't answer the question about how you felt about your wife when you met her...Iam sure it was pretty darn close to what you feel now, if you Think about it...I know 30yrs is hard to feel back on but try to remmeber how it felt...same ;)
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You are right. I hope it all works out for you. I don't know why you waited so long since your child is grown.
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^he is a pussy that's why....
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so not a man!!!! only boys start something new befor ending what they are already in!!! even more so if he were a man he wouldn't ask advice as to how to handle this situation! it's so simply even a cave man could figure it out!!!!!!!
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is girlfriend is so fUcking stupid she didn't even read his post....he specifically states that he doesn't know who to choose! well geez lady are you really that dumb?
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^ yes both are nothing more then children who have no idea who they are or what they want and HAVE NO BUSINESS EVEN BEING IN ANY RELATIONSHIP!!!
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Whenever you find your soul-mate you will have absolute oneness ? unity. Two persons utterly disappear into each other. There is no division at all. Two persons function as if they are one person ? two bodies, but one soul. It is absolute harmony. It is love at its peak.
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true love is way better than settling... be authentic and true to you. take care =)
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^^^^as the other woman i think i would demand a little more respect. it sounds like you really do love him and are committed to him in your heart, but the reality is what it is. he is married and is not leaving his wife for you... the fact is he is just making things worse by not doing the right thing by ending his marriage. did he make a mistake for marrying so young? probably, but everyone has personal responsibility in a situation. he has had 4.5 years to file for divorce, which he can obtain whether his wife wants one or not. that is an excuse he is using to project blame onto her like it is her fault. not only is that lame but he sounds like a pussy. unless he is a lesbian i don't know how well this will work out for you in the long term :/
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Didn't you think your wife was the ONE when you met her? didn't you feel in Love with her then? I know me and my husband were crazy in Love and honestly we still are, I still constantly think about him all day Except now that I have known him for ten years, it's not always in the best light, lol, sometimes I am thinking what an a** **** he was last night; ya know what I mean, but then we fight or argue or bicker or whatever it is you want to call it, Make up yet AGAIN, it's insane really. Most people thought we would never make it this far cuz we do argue soo much, but our LOVE for one another is so strong we fall in and out of Love with eachother everyday cuz sometimes he's a prick and I am a b**** but then the next day it's back to lovey dovey. lol Most people would say this isn't a healthy relationship or see it negative because people see arguing negatively, which it is kinda BUT we are young and growing together meaning dealing with eachother changing, and we both know it. Our Love is Strong enough to get us through the BS. Now I want to say does this sound like a soulmate or trying to make it fit/work?? The word soulmate is a coined term, you choose to Love someone and whomever you Love is your Gift, but you Choose it. Sorry it's so lenghty :/
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if he cheats on her he will cheat on you. are you stoooopid?
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Our love was strong enough to get us past 30 years. The word soul-mate is not just a coined word. Google it to learn where you and yours are at in your relationship. Yes, you can choose to love. But there is a difference in types of love. I love my child with all my heart. I love my wife. That is a great gift to love and be loved. The way I love my g/f is a completely devine love that comes from the heavens. The kind that changes the feelings and thoughts of what love is. I dont think you can choose this kind of love, it chooses you.
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Many of you are in relationships that you are lying to yourself about. Just like Cinderella's sisters you are trying to make something fit that does not. You keep trying to put on the glass slipper -- binding your feet and heart, trying to make it fit. The lying is so painful that it squeezes the very life out of you. Stop lying to yourself. If it does not fit--it does not fit. Be honest and truthful, as well as honorable.
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I made a mistake of falling in love with a married man in the beginning he could not see himself with his wife in the future and I gave him a chance allowed him into my heart . He told me he loved me just last week. But we have not seen one another in a very long time because he chose her . And I guess I deserved to be led on and hurt . Go for the love you cannot see yourself living without . I know it hurts to end a marriage but I am sure it must not be a happy one if you have to have a GF too. It will hurt but once its done maybe you and whoever you choose can be happy . But you have to pick one it isn't fair to have both . A woman needs a man who can give his heart fully .
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Ok people, I'm the other woman. I am very much "In-Love" with this man. He is the kindest most gentle hearted person I know. Yes, what we did was wrong, we both new that from the very beginning! When your with someone everyday is hard not to form a bond. But...I'm not sorry for falling "In love " with this man! I didnt set out to do it! Our relationship is not based on financial, security, or SEX!! It wouldnt matter if we couldnt even have sex, the love in our hearts is still there. Our souls become one when we are together. And yes...I would take care of him and love him for the rest of our lives! I'm not a 25 yr old with false dreams and hopes. I'm 1 yr younger than he is! And yes, his wife does know, we have spoke about the situation many times. Its not like he didnt tell her or tried to hide the relationship. He told her early in time he was "In Love" with another woman. She just wont let go and he feels a responsiblity to her because of the length of the marriage. Sometimes when we are young we do things on a whim...and it's not "Always" the right thing. As in marriage at a young age to an older woman! What is meant to be will be...But...you all need to be in our shoes to know whats its like. Judge not lest ye be judged!
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*And to the one of you who does know how it can happen...and what it feels like...I hope your life is happy now!
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^4 couldn't have said it better myself!! honorable is only honorable when it right!!! it's never honorable when your doing for the wrong reasons!!!
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*Just so you all know,You don't know what true love is until you find it. I love this man with all love my heart, it feels as if he is the breath to my Life! He tells me I have taught him something he had never felt before. What it feels like to love someone, to miss someone when apart, to feel love in your heart! He loves me with a love I have never felt before. I feel complete When we are together, Its like one mind and soul work together to make us! I wish everyone could feel this kind of love...at least for a min!!
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^The above comment is intended for 3^ not 2 ^.
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The other woman loves him more than the air she breaths.
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hows about asking your two women how they would feel about sharing you in a 3some? maybe they have a bi tendency or maybe both are happy that you are getting what you need from the other, maybe they want to keep it the way it is?
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the idea of soulmates is a joke... anyone can make any marriage work if you realize that that is what it is work. Of course it is more fun with the girl on the side... you go have some sex with her some fun and then you come back to your own life. It is like comparing disenyland to walmart. The problem is no vacations last for ever so if you decide to move to disney you will just get tired of it too. Life is not about keeping your emotions on some high
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^ your a fool!!!!!!! god created ONE for each of us and tooo many people get into marriages without understanding of that and though many have a peice of paper called a marriage certificate they will never be married in gods eyes!!!!!! they are not with the one he designed for them!!!!!! yes they can make it work for life BUT they will also be setteling for less then what god intended them to have in a marriage!!!!! who realy wants to settle???? NOONE!!!!!!! in all reality none of us can truly give up our dreams that were put deep within our souls when god created us!!!! you might be able to convince yourself that your happy but anyone can be happy even alone why just settle for happy when you can have your dream!!?? i myself would rather be alone then to settle!!
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I feel God has a soulmate for every person too. He will let them cross paths one day and when you meet them you will know it. So untill you know you haave found the person God intended for you to be with you should'nt get married just to settle for companionship
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You're not a man at all. You're a lying, cheating, pig that has no idea what's in store for himself. What goes around comes around. It may not be in the form of your wife cheating either.. it may come as some horrible accident to you or someone or something you really love will be taken away from your life and you'll realize at that sad sad moment why that's happening. But by then it will be too late. Your heart will be broke beyond repair.
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^You are a judgemental, nasty person! Karma will also come knocking on your door...just remember that!
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^^your one to talk about karma considering you are a cheater!
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You say this other woman is Your soulamte, but does she feel the same about you?? If not then Karma May come back to bit you twice as hard :/
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^When two people feel complete and whole and as one when togther, they both know that there souls where ment for eachother. "She knows"
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^^Why don't you get a life and get your nose out of other's business. Maybe even find someone to get you off? Then just maybe you wouldn't appear so nasty and bitter...worry about yourself LOSER!
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I had an affair with a married man who was older than me. He was hot though and damn it was fun!
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^this is not an affair ahole, he fell in love with someone else, you were used.
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I wasn't used. I had the affair with him because he got me off like nobody else. It was great for me and him. He is still married and so am I so no harm done.
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no morals, no integrity, no honesty. no justification.
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lol
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C'on a** ****, man-up. We don't need another guy giving us a bad name. We are all about taking responsibility......so, keep your commitments.
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OK im wrong. Im not saying im not. It never should have happened, but it did. and in my heart I feel bad that I hurt my wife. But I cant say Im sorry for finding TRUE LOVE.
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^then do the honorable thing and divorce your wife so you can commit yourself fully to your TRUE LOVE....if you really loved her you wouldn't keep making her wait for you. 4 and a half years is a long time for a woman to hear empty promises from a man!
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^Your right.
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I met my soul mate while married and he was as well. We left our vows for each other and have been happy ever since. Choose "in love " rather then love , there is a huge difference and you are right no-one here will know this untill it happens to them. People need to remember that when the sanctatity of marriage was created human kind only lived to be 30 years old so keeping your vows was easy! Sometimes we act on impulse, marry to young make the wrong decisions which is the ride of life and is fine as long as we remember that the ride can only last so long so make the most of it, move on, let her move on. Be happy that is all that matters in the end.
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As soon as you leave your wife for the GF, she'll become your wife.
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Are you the governor of SC? You can see how well that's working for him, don't you?
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My wife loves me very much. She thinks im making a mistake. She wants me to come back and seek counselling. We have been through that in the past. Im not doing it again. She don't beleive in divorce and will not re-marrie. She has started back to church and has a good relationship with God. She tells me she will be ok and prays for me every day.
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^well you need it. can you imagine how much happier you would have been if you would have never cheated, divorced your wife and remarried your soul mate? the mistakes you are making are hurting everyone involved and it's all your fault!
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Yes i could have been what some people call happy staying married as long as I would have been willing to live life with a controling wife. I can make myself happy by getting out of the house, stay at work, play golf, exc. Is that what life is about just stay with a person just because it's the right thing to do. and it may be the right thing to do, but at the cost of true love. Do I just give that up and settle for the sake of saveing a long marriage
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I tend to look at the first post and agree. Let's bypass all the negative remarks on here and just look at the fact that I guarantee you that if you were with her, in time, just like with your wife, you'll get bored with her as well.
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So maybe thats why so many men cheat, because they are getting bored after time goes by. So stay bored in a marriage because thats where its going to end up in time anyways with another person. Dont make since to me.
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^^GET A DIVORCE YOU IDIOT!!! who cares how long you have been married if your fUcKing another woman you have already divorced your wife in your heart. what really gets me is you act like a victim when in reality you are the one who can't man up and be responsible. you have never even said what you did is wrong! CHEATING IS WRONG!!! just like staying in a loveless marriage while you string another woman along is wrong. YOU SIR ARE WRONG!!!!
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it is also kinda shitty that your son knows your having an affair with another woman...that is his mother you are cheating on for christ's sake!
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My wife has known for a year and half. I was young when a made those vows to my wife. Im not sure i knew at 18 what it really ment to marrie. Do 18 year olds really know what love is? Im not so sure they do. I do care for my wife. We have been through thick and thin. And yes I do believe in God. I beleive God wants us to love like he knows love.
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Why don't you just get into that whole Polygamy thing. It works on that show Big Love...
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HOW ABOUT DOING US ALL A FAVOR BEFORE YOU CHOSE AND STERILIZE YOUR SELF SO THERE ARE NO FUTURE MENTAL PATIENTS OF YOURS RUNNING AROUND.
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If your wife knows then what did she say? Is she wanting to leave? This is a bit more complecated than people assume I am sure. I am in a deep marriage and we Love echother BUT I do know this could hapen to me, which I why I am curious to know what she said :?
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My son is a well respected educated young man. I have raised my family and have no plans on raising anymore. If anyone is MENTAL its sounding like you.
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I think this is sad. I put myself in your wifes shoes thinking about if you were to tell me you were leaving me for someone who have been with for 4 yrs already! I would be mad that you dragged me along for four years. Why waste my time like like that? why not give me a chance FOUR years ago to find someone? Why coulnd't you tell me? You really are a chicken shit and obviously your soulmate is like you for sleeping with a married man :/ Good Luck with that
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women who sleep with married men are whores! and you want to leave your wife for a whore why??? to all the "other women" posting i am glad your lives are f***ed up, you deserve it! it just goes to show if you create a f***ed up situation you have to sleep in the bed you made.....choose a married man and you are getting yourself into deep ShIt! just another cumdumpster for him to use lol!!!
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^oh you must be the bitter OTHER woman, you know the kind who fUcKs married men then complain when they don't leave their wives lol!
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Im the poster. I do have a child that is married and on his own. He and his wife just want me to be happy and loved. I am loved by my wife, but not happy. My g/f is my soulmate and I can be my self, and my soul feels complete. I did'nt know what love was until I met my g/f. I now understand love songs and love movies. I understand now how God loved the church, and how he ment for us to love our mate. And why he dont like divorce. He would never divorce the church, because of the love he has for us. When you find your true love you will all understand what love is.
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^^how can you talk about god when you are breaking your marriage vows which you took before the eyes of god at your wedding? also how can you accept love from your wife then have sex with another woman? how is that okay? if you really love the other woman who you claim is your sould mate then leave divorce your wife and live honestly. until you do that your just another hypocrite who is too weak to act like a man :(
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One would assume both you and your wife would be happier in the long run. The deed is done, you made your decision four years ago. What's taking you so long to give your wife the divorce she deserves? Marinating in misery will only make both of your lives worse as the years go by. She will find out, best it comes from you.
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