What do they expect of you that is over and beyond? When a child is in your care you ARE the mother. Did you see getting a ready made family as something of a plus, or a burden?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
When you said "I do" it meant that you would also be taking care of her as well. Why won't you stop your complaining and realize how lucky you are to have a child in your life. You unappreciative catty woman...
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
What is her mother like? She may need you and since you married her dad it sort of is your responsibility to treat her as your child. That IS what you signed up for. What is "expecting to much" from you?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
a package deal honey!!!! should of considered that befor you married!!!!!! don't want the responsabilty take a hike!!!! i'm sure dad wouldn't mind seeing how you feel!!!
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Grow a set of ovaries and man up.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Exactly.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
I can't believe how rude people are when they don't even know the story. I have a step-daughter, at the same time I gave birth to my son. It seems like the minute it happened, my awesome husband turned into a pos like the girls mother, drinking everyday, while I'm busting ass to take care of 2 kids. It's ironic they fight over custody, when I'm the only one taking care of her.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
You are, for better or worse, the adult woman in her life who, for practical purposes, her mother! You must have known this before you married! Deal with it! How would you feel if you were her?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
You're her step mother, same thing as a real mother, sans genetic tie. Suck it up and deal with it, ho..
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Married my wife adopted her little girl.People are amazed at how good we get along.The best thing that ever happen to me.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
who has the expectation?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
u knew he had kids... yeah ur not the birth mom but,.... family goes beyond blood. that is ur kid.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
well, stop calling her your daughter and call her "my husbands kid" !!
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
You said step mother, that means you are married. If not, you are right. You are nothing to the child and nothing to the dad the way you act. You should feel lucky he wants to be with you, as you already have children. It must be tough when you realize you are only there to babysit. Go find another guy to pay your bills and try to find one that doesn't have kids, or ex-wives so you can be sure to take complete advantage of him, because it is obvious that you are selfish.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
The post directly before this has a black and white drawing as well, which is rare here, is this coincidence? Or is that your hubby/boyfriend?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
^^^that is a stupid hypothetical situation, it's like asking if two of your kids were drowning which one would you save...no answer is the right one!
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Unfortunately, relationships don't work that way. If a person comes with a child, one generally expects the "step parent" to act as more than a babysitter. Does he know your true feelings? If not, that's unfair to him and his daughter. They obviously already had one lousy woman in their life, don't make it two. If he does know, then I guess that decision is on him as the child's only parent. Honesty is the best policy.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
you are an idiot! you married someone that had a child. what do you expect?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
If you are in loco parentis, you need to afford her a certain level of protection, and I'm sure you do. What do you mean by people expecting so much of you?
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
I am NOT married to this child's parent for one and for two the child's parent does nothing for their daughter they ask me to do everything for this child
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Plus I already have children of my own so before you judge someone know the whole story!
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
If you aren't married to the child's parent, then how can you be the step mom??
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Maybe you should be honest if you are complaining about people not knowing your story...
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
if your already a mom how can taking care of one more kid be that much of a chore? if you had no experience with kids i would understand your struggle but this seems stupid.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
If you were in a life-and-death situation where you could only save your child or your significant other's from a previous relationship, which one would you try to save.... That's right - so would everyone else whether they would admit it here or not.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
Oh boo hoo, you married the man but not the kid right? I mean she already has a mom, so you're off the hook. Except for that whole "reality" thing that comes crashing down. Is it just that all vaginas these days come packaged with zero notion of consequences? Cause I swear you gals are getting dumber by the day.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
^ there is an acronym for the saying " Cant Understand Normal Thinking ".....think about it
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
^ And it's not spelled VAGINA....
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
poor child. who's raising a poor child. Here's hopin the dad is smarter than the rest.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
I have two BONUS daughters. They have been in my life since they were 3 and 5, I AM THIER MOTHER! Their birth mother left them when they were just babies....SHE did me a favor. i feel sorry for you, but more so for this poor baby.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
you sound very selfish. this girl didnt ask for this life. put yourself in her shoes.
|
| Remove this stupid comment |
|
