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I have been with a married man off and on for 5 years now.  I don't feel guilty and now the wife knows, I don't think I owe an apology.

I have been with a married man off and on for 5 years now. I don't feel guilty and now the wife knows, I don't think I owe an apology.

 
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WOW im amazed at the number of good posts on this one. I thought it would be filled with all types of meaningless name calling.
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LOL!! Thanks ^..pretty sure she doesn't want to join, although I would not decline the offer haha! A slut I am not, I carry on monagomous relationships. I just choose not to have to deal with all the hubby issues either. I don't do his laundry, don't pay his pills, don't cook his meals, and don't deal with him being a dick. I get the sex and laughs and get to go on my way. Can I really be blamed for enjoying good sex? Maybe if she enjoyed it more, he wouldn't stray? I am a firm believer in the fact that if you feed'em and breed'em they'll stick around, and if they stray, oh well, hope they enjoy it, because they deserve to be happy too.
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^^ No, sorry.^No, my life is not easy, but it is not this certain aspect that makes it difficult. Is anyone's life easy? I don't believe so. Also, if you re-read my comment, I never said I get only the "good" from him, I just get good sex, nor did I ever say that what the wife receives is "bad", just her wifely duties of which she signed on for. I was a wife, I had wifely duties I enjoyed them and did them with a smile, I just prefer not to have to anymore. Now someone is going to say something about me being divorced. It was by my filing and simply because we were toxic for each other. I never cheated on my husband and do not know if he did on me, although I suspected he did which was fine, that is his business, not mine.
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why is this a secret then dummy? if everyone knows you are a slut who sleeps with married men and your okay with that why post it as a secret hmmmm?
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We, the public did not know. I don't think she is a slut at all. Grabbing life, and living. It only comes around once. His wife may not care, or may want to join in. Fun for everyone!.
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Just curious as to if you think your way of life is easy? Since you say you only get the "good" from the man and none of the bad that apparently the wife recieves?
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I think your way of thinking about his wife is sad though. You suspected your previous husband cheated on you right....what if the girl he cheated with said the same thing about you? I know yu don't care right...yeah thats not the point..especially if it wasn't true, which likely it wasn't. Point is your blaming his wife when he is the one with the problem ;)Do what you do but don't think your better than anyone while you do it.
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p.s please don't read my comment with any kind of condescending tone. I am clam and matre...just giving some diffrent input thats all.
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^omg I wish there was an edit button...I am not clam but calm lol and mature hahahha
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im gonna post the same thing i always do on post like these, you were a closet f*** not worthy of public view with this man, this may be okay with you, but i know your type you probably always go for the attached guys, because your probably a crazy b**** with no morals, and when the guy finds out just how much he cant leave cause you got the threat to hang over his head, no single guy would stay that long because they can just leave without ramifications. you should just cut out your vagina and mail it because thats all your worth. not saying hes any better, because hes the one married, but trust me your not special, so dont never ever feel that way, sure you werent his first and probably wont be the last, so when your at home by yourself wondering why no-one loves me, let me help you out cause your an immoral whore, you said so yourself
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why cant you find your own man? HOME WRECKER!!
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It's hard to find a decent man, maybe we all have to share, I don't know. I hope not.
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to the OP, i'm available if your in Co.:)
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If this married man was happy at home, he would not be looking elsewhere for what he needs emotionally. This is the truth.
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WOW, caps is soooooo cool :)
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Just read all these comments. What comes to mind is "Thou protesteth too much." You sound like someone looking for justification for your bad behavior. Regardless of what you say and the wife's seeming disregard for this situation, it is wrong. Someone IS being hurt. He doesn't deserve either you or his wife and you certainly don't deserve to usurp someone elses husband. Vows are being broken and whether you realize it now or not you are diminishing your worth as a human being. There is NO justification for this behavior and there are plenty of men out there that are NOT married for you to have good sex with. I am sorry for all three of you and your destructive behavior for the selfish want of an orgasm. Sad!
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they make dildo's that are way safer than a married men!
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NASTY! Who wants to be with someone who would cheat on their wife or sleep with a married person? You sound desperate for attention and obviously you can't get a man for your self so you have to scam off some other woman's man.. YUK.. no class there!
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^one person's perspective, if you had class you would touch yourself. lol
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I thinkyou may owe an apology to yourself. Say sorry for letting gross piggy men use you. And if you don't mind being used then you have bigger problems than I thought. Maybe you need to let it out on your Dad?!
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the op she admitted she was toxic.....um what guy wants to put up with that? no wonder the only way you get laid is to troll casual encounters on craigs list!
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i like this woman's attitude, wish i could be more like her however, i don't want to grow old alone either. 5 years? did he ever go on vacation with you or anything or was it just sex? i'm curious.
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When you said you didn't blame his wife....I thought this staement was just that....."maybe if she enjoyed it more, he wouldn't stray" This is blaming the wife.Putting a question mark doens't change that sorry you fail again.And that comment also implys you feel you are "better" than her because I guess you enjoy it??! You have no clue though.
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Ummm.... by chance is your married lover's name Tiger?
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and she started the affair before the wife knew which makes her a piece of shit. don't forget that part!
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WOW, so what your telling us is your an filthy whore who lacks basic morals. Yay you.
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Remember what goes around, comes around!!
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6^: I am not blaming his wife, he is his own man, makes his own decisions. If my husband did in fact cheat on me and she had no concern for me then so be it, why would she? Also, I do not believe in any of my posts did I say or incinuate that I was in any way, shape or form better than anyone else. I am not, nor do I believe I am. I am me. Some may not like me, and that is their choice. I do not go through life seeking someone else's approval. 4^: I know, right?! 3^: She has found out, did you not read the original secret/post? If she is devestated, I do not know. Feeling betrayed, I am sure. Can I change that? Nope. Would I? Sure, if I could. Would I apologize for my actions? No. 2^: You are absolutely correct, but if you read my other comments, to each is their own and if for some reason my next husband decides to cheat, then so be it. I wouldn't blame either parties. Honestly, if it made him happy and nobody was injured/hurt then game on!
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What goes around comes around.
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This is my first post on this: I was cheated on. I divorced her a$$. It was the last straw. My thought on this is really YOU'RE not to blame in your relationship. He is the one who made the commitment to the wife, not you, HOWEVER, think of it this way: just because you didn't care whether or not your ex cheated on you IS indeed your business, but not everyone feels the same. I know I was hurt bad and this husband's wife may be completely ill from it and the fact that you don't care in my view kinda makes you a little heartless. If you had a single friend with benifits, that would be a totally different story. I'm not judging you, but just think about it a little.
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Maybe you don't feel guilty cause your a worthless b**** whore
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she obviously doesn't value herself or she wouldn't be out searching for meaningless sex with someone she doesn't love. the other aspect to think about is all the sloppy seconds going around....i know i would not be comfortable sleeping with a man who is sleeping with a woman who is probably sleeping with ANOTHER man because her husband is cheating on her in the first place. what a mouthful! this would make an awesome soap opera :) even though she claims her divorce was good and she is happy no longer being married, divorce scars you. falling out of love with someone is a painful process and i have a feeling the op would rather not put herself in a position to be hurt again. that's why she chooses married men who are already in committed relationships, she feels like she is in control because she can walk away. those types of relationships may bring short term pleasure, but growing old by yourself is a reality she will someday face if she doesn't change her behavior now.
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