Wait till the kids are grown is a cop out,life is to short and precious,tell her where your going and why,Thats what I did and never looked back,now I wish I would have been a man sooner
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Go for it, teach the wife what happens when she refuses!Blunt but true!Married women don't close your eyes on sex.
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Wear a rubber.
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somewhere along the way... you lost her . I say cheat, trust me she is hoping you do so she can leave you. its not sex she doesnt like its having sex with you.
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^ Seriously, you should leave her before you "cheat" so she can't screw you as much in the divorce. Don't they still accept alienation of affection as a reason for divorce? Believe it or not, I'm a woman. I think no sex is breaking vows as much as "cheating" is. Swearing to be faithful goes both ways; it's not just that you won't have sex w/other people, it's that you'll always have sex w/each other. Just do it, leave her. No BS about money or kids. You "cheat" and get caught - or even if she's just 'sure' you are in her mine - she'll rake you over the coals. Hell hath no fury than a woman who thinks she's been scorned.
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I'm in the same situation - having sex outside of my marriage and yet I don't have any guilt. I can only be rejected so many times - now I'm just waiting for the kids to reach adulthood so I can divorce her.
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That's all men can think about is sex sex sex. I suppose that's because their woman is busy taking care of everything else so they don't have to think about it. Can you guys not get your mind off of sex for 5 minutes..sheesh!
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hey ladies FYI: you can be users too!
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Go have fun, you gave her ample opportunity to fix things. Go have fun and start divorce procedings. If you wait until the divorce is over you might explode, damn things take forever. It is someones sick joke that marriage can be done in minutes in Vegas, but takes years to get out of. It would make more sense if it took longer to get married wouldn't it? Go have fun. I am sorry your wife turned so greedy. Many women are just materialistic sluts, label whores.
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If a man does not get what he wants and needs at home, he will get it somewhere else! This is the truth. (Check out the song "Carolyn" by Conway Twitty!)
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OP here. I'm depressed, just found out I've got anal warts.
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If all men want is sex, why in the hell do they get married?? It blows my mind how they get married and then complain about how much sex they get. If you want sex, DON'T get married. Get it?
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just leave her already! start a new life, you did it once before and you can do it again...before its too late!
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It sounds like you are going the whole 100% and she gives very little. I am a woman and I think it would just be better to leave first. You deserve so much better and there are other women out there that deserve a man like you.
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I wouldnt stay married to someone who didnt have a super affinity for sex, and I am a woman. I want it all the time.
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Life...is too short not to be with someone who isn't crazy in love with you. Accept that she isn't the right person. This isn't HER rejecting you...it is just the WRONG FIT. Let this situation go..and let life take you where you will.
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are you mad because she doesn't care? lololol you must have been an a** **** enjoy your life.
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maybe she is having sex with someone else.
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I thought you said "animal sex" when I first read it.
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Your just not on the same "sexual level" there is no connection between you two... I am actually A woman with whom A husband cheated on his wife with... and I can tell you what, while I don't believe in Adultry... I do believe in an emotional/physical/mental connection in a relationship.... I'm not condoning what your going to do, but the reality is what you have at home is dead ( I have also been that woman) and once its gone... its gone...NO matter what you do it isn't coming back!!! I wish you well in your endeavers....
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Part 1:I am the OP and I want to thank those who have posted. This is a dire dilemma for me. I want to go this weekend, but then I don't want to go. I have told my wife over the past two years off and on that I can't continue living with this sex life like it is anymore. We have been married 18 years. We are both in our early 50's. I feel I am a much more sexually charged person than she is. I just think I am imaginative and creative in sex. I feel she is conservative and reserved. I always have felt that way about her. To be honest, anymore I don't feel like "wine and dine", "romancing", "candles", etc. and I am that kind of guy also. The last 6 years of our life have been hell for me with a new business she wanted to buy. It was over 400 miles away from where we lived at the time. I did everything. We didn't have $$ to fix the house where we lived and sell it so I hired a management company that now rents it to own. I moved everything we had from there, I loaded it in U-Hauls, drove it. 3 Trips back and forth, each in less than 24 hours to save money. That included unloading. (Anyone that has ever used a U-Haul to move any distance knows that just the ride itself is a beat down). I put the rest we couldn't use into storage. I left my kids and grandkids in that city (previous marriage). I thought I permantly damaged my back. I could hardly move for a week.
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Part 2: . It was 3 weeks before the pain subside. Then I suffered at the hands of this fanatic woman that ingested herself into her business...and nothing else mattered. I endured, I cried, I went to be at night alone every night for years because she worked until 10:30 or 11 every day. She was dedicated to her money. She still is. I have told her to her face a dozen times or more that she is the "Bitch From Hell". I'm not screaming it, I'm not mad, I am dead serious when I say it to her because I have never called another woman a "b****" in my entire life. She is so much so it makes me hate money. I hate what it has done to her and to us. She knows that, but I don't think she cares. She works at her business and I do all the housework almost. I cook, I leave her meals for when she gets home. I fix everything around the house, I do the mowing, the raking, the planting. I built her a fenced in 400 sq. ft veggie garden. I painted the house, power wash, stain the wood walkways. Everything, you name it. And I'm always at work between 4 and 5 AM and work until 3 or 4 in the afternoon. Sex is part of my life, Life is not part of my sex. I'm not always just thinking about sex. I just want to have a life with sex in it, not sex with a life in it.
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Grow some balls and leave her first. Then all you'll have to take care of is you.
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^ No.
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Have you asked her why she won't put out? Have you told her you're pent up and need some lovin? Grow some balls, get honest and direct or get out.
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You need to do what you have to do but the honorable thing would be to leave your wife first. Is there a reason you haven't left her? If there is maybe you need to try counseling and see if you can fix your marriage. I sympathize, I've been there and decided to stay and not cheat but she has tried to keep me happy in other ways (besides intercourse which she just isn't interested in anymore). I love her too much to walk away and sex is NOT everything.
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I know of a man in the poster's situation: he ended up looking somewhere else - the reason of staying in a frustrated marriage? MONEY! dividing...stress.
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Have you tried actually seducing her? Most women aren't too fond of the old in and out routine. Most also don't like that whole "C'mon, let's have sex. My balls hurt baby" routine. It may just be that sex between you two isn't as fulfilling for her.
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come home tie her up and do her hard this might help her with your sex life
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