Tell him, if it is meant to be he will stay and if he leaves he never really loved you.
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you do know that it is illegal to do that right? you need to tell him. can you live with yourself for the rest of your life knowing you gave him herpes? if you answer yes OR you dont care... you honestly dont love him as much as you think you do.
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This is the very reason why you do not have one night stands when you have herpes. Everyone you tell will leave. The one you dont tell will always want to stay. I feel sorry for you. I have herpes I know your pain, but I think the worse pain would be to fall in love with someone who doesnt know. You have been dishonest and that is why he will leave when he does find out.
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just pretend you didn't know you had it and don't f*** him during an outbreak
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^or accuse him of giving it to, that may also be a way of breaking the ice
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That's f***ed up to not tell someone straight up that you have an std. If he leaves you maybe thats what you deserve?!
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maybe he has aids and didnt tell you, that would be funny hun?
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Nancy? Holy shit I bet I dated her in '87-'90. Very educational about the disease, kind of feisty little redhead, rode dressage?
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He is going to BEAT you ASS when he finds out!
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90% of you idiots have herpes. It's just on a different location: Your Face. You can STILL pass it on by ANY skin contact. It's not the end of the world. Would you dump someone because they have acne?
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I ate out a 17 year old with herpes on numerous occasions and nothing happened to me.
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Hey OP....you knowingly had herpes and said nothing and shagged him(probably in a car) ...now you, of all ppl, want sympathy ? One self centered batch, I swear! I hope you hootchie grows together and needs a chain saw to open it up again for your next truck stop job. Start using your head, ONLY !!
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Not telling a sexual partner about your diseases is like giving it to them on purpose. At least give the person a chance to make that choice to be with you. If they truly care for you they'll wear a condom, work around the flare ups and deal with it. Maybe he's not telling YOU that he has aids. How would you like that?
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my ex hqd herpies she didnt tell me until after we had sex the first time. IO was plenty pissed off at her but i understand why she waited to tell me... but you should tell him/her, and thats it... whether society approves or not, doesnt matter its whether you and your partner approve. but the bigger issue is the trust you failed to display and have in that might be the biggest issue. Trust they would be accepting of you, trust that you wouldnt do harm to them, trust that they can make adult decision, and trust in respecting them as a person.
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f you powder blue
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My ex had herpies and didn't tell me till after the fact!!! I'm still clean left her in "96" OH SHIT" Nancy is this you? I know you just got divorerced AGAIN!
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The people on here who act like it's no big deal are fooling themselves. Try having herpes from casual sex and try and find someone to love you when you tell them oh yeah and I have herpes, 99 percent of people would run. It's a bad thing soemthiung you can pass to your kids while giving birth...yeah life goes on though right...wake up..safe sex dumb f***s!!
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errrrr......lies...
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When I was 23 my bf told me he had herpes. I accepted it. I found out I contracted it after we broke up. I've had herpes for 25 yrs. I told all my bfs, they dumped me. I married the 1st man who accepted me (lasted 20 yrs). The marriage was unfulfilling, a mistake, I settled. I didn?t pass it onto him or my kids. I was faithful. I?m the OP.
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Your boyfriend deserves better than that... unless he is black or hispanic...
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That's pretty f***ed up, but at this point it's time for some damage control. Say you recently went in for a pap smear and discovered you tested positive for herpes. In human sexuality we learned some people are just carriers and never show any symptoms, so you won't look like a liar, and you can still be honest.
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About 70% of the population carry herpes. Most strains cause no outbreaks. The rest will mostly only cause outbreaks on either men or women, not both.
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Herpes isnt the end of the world. I have it. It's annoying but rarely shows up. It's a damn skin condition not life threating. 80% of you fools on here have it just on your face. So when you are going down on someone YOU are exposing them to herpes as well. Do you tell? Of course not. Cold sores on the face are more socially acceptable. Genital herpes are just in another location. Avoid sex when you have an outbreak like you avoid kissing when there is an outbreak on the face. Life goes on.
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When I was 23 my bf told me he had herpes
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I'm thinking he'll find out on his own sooner or later. Studies show it can be passed on even without a visible outbreak.
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Im sure he has it now. I heard you can get it and spread it to another even if there is no outbreadk. Is this true?
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When I was 23 my bf told me he had herpes. I accepted it. I found out I contracted it after we broke up. I've had herpes for 25 yrs
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If you can't tell the truth now then just end it now. Save yourself some time and him to, if you care for him. Waiting six months to say something important as that will be devstating to him, not because of the std but because of the Lie. I feel bad for you and him. Maybe your love is strong enough to survive? FYI Love cannot survive without honesty.
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I know what you are going thru... years of heartbreak. I, too, felt unloved for many, many years. Unless you have herpes, you will never know what it's like to feel shunned and unloved. Enjoy this time while you can.
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If you have an STD and you knowingly risk passing it on to someone that does not know THAT IS WRONG!!!! He has a right to know . It should have been discussed before any intimate contact. When you got it was the person that gave it to you nice enough to tell you they had it ? Or if they didn't how did it make you feel ? From what I have heard on t.v there are ways of preventing the spread to your partner .Please talk to him about it . And do not blame him for giving it to you as suggested above if you know it was not him.Good Luck
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you have set yourself up for a massive lawsuit!
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hahaha lawsuit. its not a death sentence its a skin condition at most. give me a break.
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Now, two people have herpes
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