If you were more then a simple wife he would have givin you the attention,The fault lays squarely on your shoulders ! All men STARVE for attention of the sexual sort and if the wife wont give him that attention he`ll find it elsewhere.BUT you can still salvage your situation.LOTS OF ROLE PLAYING if you really want to save your relationship.My hat off to him he could have had many affairs on you ,SOOOOO there is still a chance ...GO GET HIM !!!
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^ Lots of assumptions here and maybe all wrong. One thing for sure, All men are NOT starved for sexual attention, some are some aren't, it takes all kinds. Sorry you made the same mistake many people do with the affair, you are a woman of conscience and now you have to live with it. As for hubby, the first commentor may have some validity but only direct honest conversation with your partner can tell what the problem really is. It's called counseling - get some. Good Luck! -Nikodemus.
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I get this reaction a lot... from men. The effects of porn on women's self-esteem can be huge. My affair was one year into our separation after I did everything I could to get my husband back... to keep him interested. My affair lasted three months and that was two years ago. It was the best love-making of my life! I went to counseling for the duration of my separation. My ex refused to go and I respected his wishes. I just can't forgive myself for crossing a line I never thought I'd cross! But I can't forget because it was so amazing!
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So where is your marriage now? Separated? Still want him back? Why? You have to forgive yourself in order to move on in a healthy way. We all make mistakes, or bad decisions. Maybe your lover is the one you should be with. Maybe it's just time to move on and find a partner that makes you feel the way your lover did. You husband sounds stubborn and if he won't join you in counseling, what real hope is there. Nothing can change if he won't try. I wish you luck and peace of mind but mostly I hope youf ollow your best instincts, you sound grounded, now make the tough decisions and live up to them.- Nikodemus
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PS - I had many lovers during my first marriage, never felt guilty for many reasons and finally realized I was with the wrong person. Divorced, met someone and have been faithfully, happily married ever since, (over 20 years) It's easy when you find the right person. - Nikodemus
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I don't agree that it was your fault he was more in to porn than you. Porn is an addiction usually practiced by insecure men. BUT you didn't "end up" in an affair with a married man. YOU chose that much like your husband chose the porn. Instead of finding your self respect on your own you ruined another marriage. As for hating yourself, get over it. Forgive yourself, get away from the married man and get into some therapy and earn some self respect. And PS to the first poster... all men don't starve from sexual attention. Some men are confident and have integrity and self respect and they don't need their wives or other lovers to boost their fragile egos. Also some men aren't at all interested in sex and that can be a tough situation too.
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its your fault! you should have taken it in the ass! you cheated because you are a whore! don't blame him for that!~ Pig Bitch!
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once a slut always a slut...
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You must be so hot...
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Rock On.....take all you can. Life is Good.
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