If you don't feel like you can make it through the day, then you try to make it through the hour, and start again. If you don't think you can make it through the hour, you take it by minutes.
It's not about strength and it's not about giving up- it's about not letting them win.
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Great point. Break it down incrementally. One minute at a time - one second. Just look down at your shoes and make your feet move. You'll eventually find that you've covered ground.
Friendships help, too. So I'm told.
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1 up^ Don't promote self harm. Endorphans can be raised by going for a walk, a run, a bike ride or getting chased by a vicious dog. Do something that scares yourself but don't put yourself in harms way.
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great comments...be good to yourself and remember there are people out here who care...
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this may sound like b.s. but im not really a very religous person. one time after a relationship break up the pain was unbearable, i felt like driving my car into a wall at 100 mph. i said please god make the pain go away, i swear within 10 min it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders and the pain went away. true story
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The best way to stop feeling such pain yourself, is to go out and do something good for someone else. Someone you know, someone you don't know, doesn't matter. Just give of yourself, without expecting any reward in return, and you would be surprised how much that will help you. You may not feel 100 % , but it's a beginning.
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Masturbation can take the edge off. Try it. A lot.
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There are times in our life that the pain feels too much, this too shall pass...it does. Holding on is what you're doing, and you're doing a great job by opening up to others because we all have suffering. Living = suffering and it's our desire to always be in a state of happiness...it's not possible state to be in, all the time.
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"Act as if", Write down the things you love to do and do them. It's a slow process from knowing what makes you happy to doing them with the happiness you once had. But in the mean time do them 'as if' and tell yourself "these are the things that make me happy".
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Thanks all. Trust me, I have done the incremental time thing, told my now-ex that I was not day to day, I was minute to minute, etc. I know it is up to me but it seems I have tried everything and feel no better, hence my feeling of hopelessness. Professional help from several, meds (against my better judgment and they only made me worse!), prayer, exercise, journaling, doing for others, etc. Nothing helped. I think a small hope of a better day kept me alive several months ago, but after not getting better, that has dwindled away.
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I know how you feel. It is hard to keep getting up everyday when there is no joy, only monotony. The days keep running together, it wasn't always like this. It just seems like nothing has changed for the better in years. Minute by minute? wow we have a loooong way to go. Get up go to work, pay bills, go to bed. repeat,repeat, repeat.....
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hey love, you are strong for sticking out all those long days of hopelessness. I think posting this is a break through that will help you find a way to get back to those brighter days again. Be good to yourself. *hugs*
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Just live your life by thinking in delusions. For example, I have convinced myself that I'm going to be famous. So, I'm happy all the time because I actually believe that fame is coming, but I haven't been "discovered" yet. Logically, it's probably not going to happen considering I make no effort, but it's a kind of HOPE that keeps me going. I also have a lot of faith in God and believe in karma, so I go out of my way to do right by others and it makes me feel good.
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Weather you realixe it or not; all of what you are doing is helping, at least a little. You are still here.
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The secret is called Oxycontin. Enjoy.
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A lesson learned is a priceless Gain,if we can only take the Pain!
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i feel the same way all the time. i sleep a lot to make the days go by. and when i can't, i tell myself that i won't know what will happen tomorrow if i didn't wake up--good or bad...so i force myself to be curious. and it keeps me going. doesn't take the pain away, but it keeps my mind off of it.
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have you tried self talk? every time a negative thought comes in your head say to your self no and think of some thing positive. Find a mantra. say "i feel better" over and over. Bad thoughts breed bad thoughts and poison your mind. keep doing it. it will take awhile to get to where it comes automatically but it will happen. dont quit! you are worth saving! this i know for a fact! now convince your self of it. and smile kids we are all in this together!
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