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My best friend died 8/08, her husband remarried 6 months later...I hate him for it and secretly hope his "new" marriage fails.  I miss my friend so much

My best friend died 8/08, her husband remarried 6 months later...I hate him for it and secretly hope his "new" marriage fails. I miss my friend so much

 
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Missing your friend shouldn't translate into hating someone else. 6 months may seem awfully quick to you and to me, but wishing pain on someone else is terrible. Hold your good memories, don't create bad ones.
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I have first hand experience at this. I lost my fiance'. We were together for several years. I have moved on. Moving into another relationship does not mean that he is over the loss. It doesn't take away from the marriage and relationship that he had with your friend. It simply means that he needs to move on and feels that he is ready. No one can make that decision but him. People are so quick to judge when it comes to this subject, but you can't until you have lived it.
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Perhaps the husband is filling a void. If that is what it is then I understand from how I felt after my divorce. He is so empty he cannot stand the pain of the loss. The silence of his home when he is anone is like a thousand screams at the same time. He feels guilty, sad, angry and helpless. He needed someone there and found her. It is not a healthy approach so soon after a loss, but it was very real to him. Sit down and just ask him. He will probably feel better getting it out of his mind. I know he is still consumed by it. If he was having an affair before she died, well, the dynamics of your post is different.
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My friend died and her husband married 30 days later. Guess what? It didnt last. He was panicking looking for "normal". He has been through 3 women since. He needs to stop and grieve and quit running.
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Many of us men need a woman in order just to survive. He remarried because he had to - it was life or death. I kiss my wife's feet every day - literally and figuratively.
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dude, he got married in Feb? wtf. August he loses his love, and remarries in Feb?
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My wife and I have an agreement that if either one of us dies, we can remarry/date as soon as we feel we are able too.
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Sounds like he paniced and married right away sohe would not have to face a devastating loss. I have have seen both men and women do this, with unhappy results. Pray for this man - best thing you can do.
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Maybe you loved her more than he did.
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My husband kissing my ..........I love him and he gets great benefits for what he doesn :))
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Thank you for the serious comments, he's hurt so many of her friends/family. They were together for 12yrs and she was 7mth preg when she died in a car accident. she was my best friend for 11yrs...the hurt doesn't go away so quickly
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That's terrible, hon. It could be that he just has no idea how to handle it. Could also be that you really did love her that much more than he did. It could be a combo of a lot of things. What's important is you keep her in your heart, and in your thoughts. He has his own demons to deal with.
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1^^^ that's funny!!
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Not your business...move on.
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