YOU ARE NOT GUILTY OF DOING ANYTHING! You were a child, and it's not your fault. Tell your S/O if it will help you heal, if he doesn't understand, he never loved you anyway. I finally told my husband all the details of the abuse I went through, it was hard, but he still loves me, and understand me better than he did... the night terrors, the small things that give me panic attacks, and the things that scare the hell outta me that seemed weird to him before he knew. He now helps me through the nightmares, and when I need to be held, he doesn't even ask why, just holds me and tells me how much he loves me.
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You are guilty of NOTHING!
Do not tell any one anything you do not want to.
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If your lover can't handle this truth and be supportive to you, they aren't worth your love.
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You we're a child a child doesnt know better and you cant blame yourself, its him that is wrong and whoever you are with will understand you and not him, if he understands him he is as worthless as the pervert who hurt you in the first place.
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You didn't know any better. Adults are suppose to keep children safe not hurt them. Don't let him steal anymore of your life. Make a decision to not be his victim anymore. He doesn't deserve anymore of your life.
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The most sucessful pedophiles make you think it's enjoyable. But, it is still rape, no matter what, and you were a victim.
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I agree with the poster above he should love you even more and want to protect you. I would give my life for my wife, especially if i caould take that bas*urd with me. There is a special place in hell for peds, & rapers
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If you are not comfortable telling your sweet heart, don't. Tell your therapist or closest confidant. If you absolutely have to tell him, remember, if he loves you, he will understand and support you.
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i noticed that when i told my husband ( my then boyfriend ) about what happened he actually loved me more for still trusting him enough to share myself with him both physically and emotionally. I only think you should share it if you love him and he loves you. I still deal with that shit everyday and now I have two daughters so I think of it even more. Despite what has happened to me I know I DESERVE to be loved intimately, I am not damaged or used and neither are you. If a man can not handle the thought of what has happened then he is a piece of shit who doesn't deserve you anyway. YOU DIDNT LET ANYTHING HAPPEN. you were a kid. i hope you learn not to blame yourself.
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honestly i have had girlfriends that were molested by family and it made me mad at the molester, NOT at the girl i was with, it wasn't her fault and she was scared/confused. get it off your chest, you will feel SOOO much better.
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It happened to me and I never stopped it! My husband is the only one that knows the truth. If he loves you he will not only understand but help you through it!
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Are you telling us that you didn't stop it for a specific reason? Thats an ambigious statement. Why should you leave us to assume? Was it because you were a child afraid? or ...
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