I understand, that was me too. But 15 years later I have forgot the the date my virginity was stolen. Give it time, you will too.
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I can identify with the way you feel. 14 years later, I too have forgotten the date I had my virginity stolen, stay strong.
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You know what, ok poster you might not want to read this but I have to say this, I dont care what you say (the only two relevent comments) you know it was how many years ago! you have the memories! YOU STILL HAVE THOSE SUBCONSCIENCE RESPONCES WHEN A MAN TOUCHES YOU WHERE HE DID THE WAY HE DID. I know those feelings they havent faded and every time it makes you wish that some one would have killed him like you know so many said they wanted to!!! DONT try and sugar coat it.
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get over it already...
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^^^ i think your sick whoever made the comment above, this poor person has obviously been through trauma which is similar to mine, i work in a nightclub where if i go anywhere away from my station i take a radio just in case, i never want to go through it again i have come to the point they dont really scare me anymore but i am hostile towards men i dont know, if they try to touch me, even my arm or to give me a hug which drunk people do alot, i will move away from them. its automatic but at least i know in the club i am safe due a countless doormen only a scream away.
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I can remember the exact day of the month it happened to me...it was just as the AIDS virus was really becoming a problem here with heterosexuals (Im not gay by any means). I was ashamed and afraid and did not tell anyone but my sister about it for a long time. It took me 5 years to tell my dad. I was raised in a very sheltered manner and kept myself away from sex and men for over 15 years. Then I met a man who took me to his heart and months later to his bed and he has kept my heart ever since. We have been together for 6 years. I only regret that I waited so long and never took the chance to have a child. Don't be afraid, get help. Life is so much better when you aren't afraid of it any longer. Don't hide from men like I did. I thought if I gained a lot of weight that they wouldn't look at or like me, but they did. You can't hide the real you under layers of fat or anything else, so shine and let the world see how beautiful you are. And see how beautiful the world is too, while you are at it. :)
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When did he/she say anything about the virginity? Where did that come from? From the way it is written it is probly a woman but it says nothing about virginity. For all you know she was molested as a child or raped as a child or adult. Don't assume. OP-more information if you want to give it.
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I hear ya friend.... I freeze up anytime i am touched w/o permission.... i haven't forgotten what happened to me but 6 years later I have more strength and gain more year after year..... you will t0o. believe in yourself
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i think dealing with molestation/rape we always be a life long battle. it does get better as time sgoe son , and it has alot to do handling the issue on your own. since its so personal.
I had multiple people molest me as a child. from the age of 5 to 13 I had3 uncles and 1 step father. and I had 2 uncles and my step father doing it to me at the same time ( as in same course of time ) i always think about it. and I dealt with it on my own thru reading up on it I never went to a therapist or my mom , I have told my friends over the years. I grew more open to it especially when I had my girls. I assume everyone ( even good ppl ) are capable of doing it to them. I would kill them, its almost like I had to die to survive. IDK what kind of woman I would be had I not gone thru what I did. I am hoping that since it has made me stronger and aware that I can give my girls peace when it comes to men and not fear like I have.
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That's quite a story. I could be the guy that may have caused the OP's issues. But the retribution I got still has me trying to repair my life.
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