You've hit the nail on the head. Fat is often a shield against rejection...kind of like putting yourself down before someone else does. Here's why you should lose weight, though. So YOU can accept yourself. Because staying the way you are is you rejecting your own value, potential and worth. Trust me, I've been there....lose it! Your life will change. (f*** men, do it for you!)
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Very good, insightful secret. I'd concentrate on getting out, getting some healthy exercise. Get your head and your health straight, and all should follow. Lots of posts on this approximate subject, but being big does not have to mean rejected. You'll be fine. Best of luck.
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They are rejecting the fat just like you would reject a guy with some unattractive quality. You say no one talks to you, so how could they reject you if they dont know your personality.
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in 8th grade i kind of just woke up with boobs...i was uncomfortable so i put on about 60 pounds. I became invisible. In college i dropped all the weight and suddenly all these people started talking to me and all these guys were around...i was uncomfortable and scared, so i gained back the weight. i used to think like you too. Are you really afraid of rejection or are you afraid of attention?
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i've lost 100 lbs, and i have found, i had a whole lot MORE self confidince heavier then i do NOW. i was an adorable fat girl, NOW i'm average at BEST.
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I think you are beautiful and I truly wish you were mine. My wife ignores me and treats me like a piece of furniture
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When I lost weight people, especially men, liked me. I was the SAME person. Now that I'm fat again, when someone likes me I know it's genuine.
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The fact that you're calling yourself fat is a red flag. You won't be able to find someone until you're happy with yourself. Love yourself first before you try to bring someone into your life. Lose the weight, hun... we all know you want to - it's something you should do.
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there is a new diet..its called less calories and exercise..
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Thank you for your honesty. I am sorry for your pain and I hope you heal... and find love... whether you're big or smaller!
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you have to want yourself before anyone else will. its not that fat or your looks, its the self pity you portray. thats the turn off. love yourself the rest will follow.
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Who the f*** is MFD?
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Take the positive comments to heart, ignore the silliness. I hope you find peace. Here's an odd news flash: I am really attracted visually to heavy women, but individually, it is the personality and character of the person that makes the difference. I can just as easily be put off by a nasty big girl and fascinated by a sweet and positive thin woman. God luck.
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Just remember that this shield you hide behind might lead you to an early death. Take care of yourself, emotionally AND physically.
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Take the risk and lose the weight. You will never know until you try. As someone said the weight can be an excuse or it can be protection. Find out which it is for you and deal with it. I find the extra weight a kind of protection from attention. I am really shy and sensitive and gaining weight seemed like a good idea to avoid attention...it was not. Good luck!
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i think i started sabatoging myself because it seemed like all guys wanted from me was sex and i didn't wanna be that "sexy" girl anymore. now i realize it was the guys i was choosing due to my poor (inner) self-image. try to find some peace with yourself and the rest will fall into place. or not, but at least you can finally love yourself.
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If this pic is you, YOU ARE GORGEOUS! Don't buy-in to the Hollywood hype that only Size 2's are pretty and can be attractive to BBWs. More than half the women in the US are a size 16 or above. And more than 10% of US men PREFER a thicker/heavier woman. Sexy comes from within, no matter what the outter shell looks like! Just be happy with yourself. B Be able to look into the mirror and smile. THEN you will be irresistible to men.
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If this pic is you, YOU ARE GORGEOUS! Don't buy-in to the Hollywood hype that only Size 2's are pretty and men aren't attracted to BBWs. More than half the women in the US are a size 16 or above. And more than 20% of US men PREFER a thicker/heavier woman. Sexy comes from within, no matter what the outter shell looks like! Just be happy with yourself. B Be able to look into the mirror and smile. THEN you will be irresistible to men.
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Getting fat just so that someone genuinely likes you is stupid, a guy can hit on a fat girl for sex and he can hit on a skinny girl for sex, weight doesn't change losers. Though remember if you are out of shape it can be hard to make love :P I advise lots of blankets on the floor rather than the bed if the guy you date is over 230 lbs, so you dont break the bed. I am guessing you are only 140 lbs, a push over weight, I only know one woman worthy of being called fat, that is my sister Desiree, she freaken weighs between 350 to 400lbs I can't get my arms around her to hug her.
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I AM IN A HORRIBLE RELATIONSHIP, IVE GAINES WEIGHT WHILE WIFE IS BLESSED WITH HER NICE LITHE FIGURE, WEVE HAD TWO WONDERFULL CHILDREN BUT AFTER 11 YEARS OF DEVOTION , FROM ME AND HER COMMENTS AND ACTIONS AS OF LATE , I TRULLY WISH FOR HAPPINES AGAIN, SWEETIE U LOOK WONDERFULL, IF U WANT TO LOSE THE WEIGHT, DO IT BECAUSE U WANT TO FOR YOUR HEALTH AND FOR YOUR OWN SATISFACTION, NOT BECAUSE U WANT THE ATTENTION OF THE CONCEITED MASSES.I WOULD WORSHIP U JUST THE WAY U ARE, I WOULD KISS UR ENTIRE BODY, AND MAKE IT MY HONOR AND PLEASURE TO MAKE SURRE, THAT I TELL U HOW BEUTIFULL U LOOK EVERY DAY AND NIGHT, TO HELL WITH THE WORLD, YOULL BE MY UNIVERSE. FUGECO@AOL.COM-ROB
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Dude you are one of the losers I was talking about, I cant stand a** ****s like you who try to cheat on their wives, especially if you say she is in shape, you are a f***ing retard. Leave this poor girl alone, she doesn't need a cheater to feel better, you would make it worse.
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screw them a** ****s get yours girl fat or not you deserve to be wanted and loved for you screw those self centerd hipocrites most guys would jump at the chance to be with a bbw. they wont admit it just like i didnt but ive been with a bbw for almost 10 years and it awsome
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you know what when i got married my wife was thin but thick in all the right places and after the baby she gained some weight but that didnt stop me fromloving her the way i do till this day peoole would say or ask me if my wife was gaing weight and i told them whats it to you but for gods sake she had just had a baby and it was born still born so she was really depressed and just stopped caring for her self but even though she did it didnt mean that i was going to quit on her cuz the weight now two yrs later she is back to the way she was and guess what i was there and im still here for her so i dont diss a over weight woman who has a reason and i dont diss the ones that dont either all i know is that i will love her today tommorow and 4 ever cuz i vowed to love her for richer or poor beeter or worse and sickness and health till death do us part.... so plz dont give up and trust in yourself and set a goal for your self and take it one day at a time peace to you and good luck
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If that is you in the picture,I think you are built just FINE! There is a lot of men that would agree.Though most won't admit it out loud.
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Overweight is a BIG health problem. Please be careful.You probably have a lot going for you,don't loose it.
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i think you are lovely just the way you are. I hope you see this someday because it is true
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