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I am a man who is turning 50 years old soon. I have a wife and 2 sons but I feel so lonely inside.I have always been a loner since I was abused by my step-dad.

I am a man who is turning 50 years old soon. I have a wife and 2 sons but I feel so lonely inside.I have always been a loner since I was abused by my step-dad.

 
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i was abused as a child by a neighbor, and now i am bisexual and there is so much crap that floats around my name, half of it is lies, the other half is i am bisexual, not a monster
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You were abused by your stepdad - but it wasn't your fault. Hard as it is to do - forgive him and then forgive yourself. May not help the lonliness - but it will help you
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You carry your abuse like a badge of courage. To get over the abuse, you need to forgive and lay the abuse badge down and then move on from there. You are not the first to be abused and you won't be the last. Forgive, forget and lay your cross down and move on.
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I'm the same way only it was an uncle...it follows you all of your life, but you have to get past it somehow. If he's still alive, slash his tires or something, it won't change anything, but you'll feel better.
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I was abused to by an older brother..i forgive him and i realize it wasnt my fault..(no need to forgive myself)I am older now and have moved past this a long time ago..
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Be a better father to your sons and know the love you give them will make a difference in their lives. Abuse is handed down, your step-f*ck was probably abused as a child but you don't have to hand it down to your boys.
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May God bless you and keep you.
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There comes a time when everyone is responsible for their OWN actions. Quit letting him control YOUR life.
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Been there, done that. because of the abuse I suffered, I lost a good woman. I was like you, I felt lonely, even though my marriage was fine. i divorced her when I was 24 years old. I am now 52. Last year we started dating again and I will tell you that it is a whole different viewpoint now. We had two children while we were married. Because of the abuseas achild, I could not beleive that someone could love me without an ulterior motive, so I lost her. There were other issues in that I did not want to live in the State that she was in. I wanted to live in the State I grew up in, even after being out of that State for 15 years. Many things come into play in relationships. It took me until I was your age to realize this. The abuse has to pass at a certain point in order for you to move forward. Seek help if you need to. You didn't mention if you live your wife and children. From the tone of your post, I assume you do. Sorry this was so long.
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Improvise, overcome, adapt! Get over it. It all passes and we move on.
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You do not, I repeat, do not have to keep those feelings from the past. You have the power to change those feelings. Find the courage, find the anger, or whatever it takes. TODAY you are not a victim. Make it happen, or he is still controlling you.
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