As long as you can still get "it" often enough stay single. Once you get older and it starts to dry up find something you can live with. I'm singe and VERY happy.
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I'm going through a divorce after 29 years of marriage, she left out of the blue one day for a guy she works with.
How the hell can you trust anyone after that?? I would rather just live out my life alone.
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i heard that
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I suppose I should amplify on this a little...
I'm male and a professional. Know what that means? That's right, damsels in distress waiting to be rescued abound, hoping that the big strong handsome guy with the house and the good job will take care of them for life. I instantly become the Alpha of the relationship, and to quote Ingrid Bergman, "You have to think for both of us. For all of us."
Really, I'd rather only have to think for me. I can barely run my own life without having to be responsible for someone else's. Three kids are enough of a load as it is without adding to it.
Thoreau advised to simplify, and I'm doing my best to follow his sage words.
Why am I not afraid to be alone? Simple- I *have* been alone for a very long time now, being The Man. Eventually I'd really rather be alone completely and be free. Maybe I won't have someone to hold my hand at the very end of life- but is that really such a bad thing?
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If you have three kids you don't need to get married again. Skip the damsels in distress if you just have to get married. marry a woman with a career that could support her on her own if she didn't have you. If you start talking marriage tell her that if you do marry her you will expect her to continue working.
If you do die alone what difference does it make? The worlds full of nursing homes with older people there who have children and grandchildren who never visit them.
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OMG!! I read these a lot, and have never made a comment-- until now.
I am female and could have written every word you did.( I was married for almost 20 years,and we have two grown children.)
I will never marry again.
I do what I want and need to do, ON MY SCHEDULE for the first time in my life!
Work, date, cook, clean, sleep, eat, work out (etc.) I love it!
Don't get me wrong, I love men and have healthy relationships, but marriage? Nah.
We don't ALL need someone else to "complete" ourselves. We are perfectly complete!
People look at me with that pity in their eyes because ex cheated and I am "alone", but truth is, it is I who pities some of them. They don't realize that one can be far more lonely with a spouse, than without. I know, because I lived it.
Good luck!!
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I've been divorced now longer than I was married, am a female, and only now at 60 do I start to feel lonely, living alone. I loved it the last 15 years, but now, not so much. More women friends would help, but they live elsewhere. I'd like to find a compatible man to just talk with, movies, the usual. but in my small town it is almost impossible, really, very few fish, and moving is an option, but not right now, but I am planning to make an effort in next 2 years whenI am fully "retired" I am not worried on dying "alone" I have developed friends with children ( I had none) and I warmly wish to have then by my side when I croak. then they get the money.. hhaha
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Poster #7- You are so right. I am a male, been marfried twice and the divorces were of my choice. I was more lonely married than single. I now have a great relationship, with my first wife. We have no plans of ever re-marrying and do not live together. We are both very happy.
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For me, I have had bad relationships and choose not to do the "marriage" thing again. I am now living with a woman, and we both agree marriage is not what we are after... companionship is the key.
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I'm a 46 year old woman I was married for 8 years long enough to produce 3 kids, I've been single for almost 20 years now and I will never re-marry I raised my kids, and once they were on their own I started to date and live my life to the fullest, I have male friends we do dinner/movies/going out and sex plane and simple I LOVE IT- no I will not die alone I have children, I will never be in a commited relationship again.
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I'm a 52 year old male. My wife and I split up in 1999, and then divorced the following year. I have not had a long-term relationship since the divorce. I have have full custody of our four children since then. Although I miss the company of a woman, I don't miss it enough to want to risk another bad marriage. I expect that I will never remarry as the years start to strip away looks and youth.
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There are a lot worse things than being alone, and being unhappy in a bad marriage or a bad relationship is one of them. All my cousins and my siblings twisted my arm to get married when I was younger, and told me "You're too fussy." Now they are all divorced, and the divorces have ripped the entire family apart. (Lucky for them I am single because I can help with tuition for my nephews and nieces!) I'm in a happy no-demand realtionship (My sweetie's kids are grown) and that works for both of us!
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