I'm sorry, have you ever thought of adoption?
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I have the same issue. My husband says we can't adopt because he doesn't want to raise someone else's unwanted brat. He thinks I should feel like his son is enough. I should be alright with that. I'm not. I don't feel like I am a real woman because of it. When I see pregnant women, I cry inside. I'd give my soul to be one of them. Sometimes I resent him when he doesn't call his son by his name. He always says, "My son this.... My son that...."
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Honesty is the best policy in regards to your situation. Repressing your emotions in relation to this challenge can lead you down a treacherous path.
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Why suffer in secret? If your husband loves you, he needs to know how you feel about this. You have options other than maintaining your secret pain. Maybe he wants kids, too, but thinks you hate them, so he is suffering as well. I have an adopted child that I love with all my heart. And he loves me totally with his pure, sweet innocence. I forget he is not my own flesh and blood. You can have this kind of love in you life too.
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I have adopted two daughters. I love them, and they love me. We try to support each other, as we are capable, through the failures and the trials. We rejoice together in the good times. Having accepted me as their Dad, they have somehow come into my legacy, and have acquired some of the good traits that I've received from my family and/or cultivated on my own. They also fall into some of my failings. This motivates to seek Gods' help, and I'm becoming a better person. Family. A true blessing, when approached the right way. Can you not be tender, open to your husband with your feelings? Pray first. Ask God to give him a heart of wisdom and understanding.
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The tears in my eyes are for the pain you are burdened with. I am so very sorry. My heart goes out to you.
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O tell people too that Im not ready but the truth is it's just not happening. People say they understand but I dont think they really know how it feels not to be able to do what mothernature intended for us. Sometimes I feel like less of a woman and when I try to not think about it secretley its tearing me up inside. I find myself despising women with kids..but just know your not alone in this struggle and I think whatever my plan really is so it will be. May you find some peace in this and may God bless you :)
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I'm so sorry. I think you should talk to someone about your true feelings though. If you don't feel comfortable talking to someone you know, you could always try talking to a therapist just to be able to say it out loud. My heart truly goes out to you.
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giving birth doesn't make you a woman. raising a child no matter where it came from and treating it as if it were your own...that's a woman
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself If YOU REALLY LOVE CHILDREN than Give Yourself to being there for one or ten babysit become a teachers aide visit hospitols Do something you think you can't. Stop Lying the TRUTH will truly SET YOU FREE
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why not think of adoption? a mother comes from the heart not the body.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself If YOU REALLY LOVE CHILDREN than Give Yourself to being there for one or ten babysit become a teachers aide visit hospitols Do something you think you can't. Stop Lying the TRUTH will truly SET YOU FREE
You obviously have no idea how she feels. I do. Just being around children makes my heart ache for what I can not have naturally.
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TELL THEM!!!
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To the person who thought it would be a good idea to put this woman down a little more by pointing out that cannot is one word....Are you just mean? or does it make you feel important to point out someone else's mistake? What does spelling a word correctly have to do with the love a mother gives her child? Or the pain a woman feels who can't have a child? Your a cold hearted b word. To the woman who posted the comment... I say adopt. There are sooo many children who need loving homes. Tell your husband. He married you. He loves you. Be honest.
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You need to tell him.
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i am in the same situation except i tell everyone how nadly i would kill to have a child just to remind the dumb b****es how lucky they are that god blessed them with what he robbed from me nothing will ever take our pain away an seeing other people with their kids seems to hurt more so whoever put spend time with other peoples kids obviously does not know the feelings of loneliness an inadequicies we suffer threw everyday i wish i had something insperational to tell you but i dont theres nothing to say sorrys just hurt more
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Why in the world would you lie about this, or anything else for that matter? You've lost the right to complain if anyone lies to you. Something about that golden rule...
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I am sad for you... It's human nature to feel that way. Don't lie...let them that feel for you help you through the pain.
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