^^^I am 10 up from here. Thank you for sharing this with us. You know, this is one of those situations where she is just going to have to fall on her face and realize that nothing improves by running away. Anorexia is so deeply psychological though, she may never pull out of her mental illness which pertains to that. She may not be mentally strong enough to put away her other issues about her mom. At least not now. All you can do is be there when she needs a friend and advisor, but keep yourself far enough removed from her illness that it does not effect you. Best wishes my friend.
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Who I am? They call me the breeze, I ain't good for nothin' else.
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^i wish she would blow back......
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You always discover who your friends are ina crisis
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^that's the thing, i was ALWAYS there for her....even if she did things i didnt agree with i still stood by her side. but now she has just gone off the freakin deep end and i dont know how to help her...or even if i care too. i guess i got sick of how one-sided our relationship was. not that it makes any of this less sad :(
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THATS SO SAD ARE THE TWO OF YOU SISTERS... ARE YOU THE ONE ON THE LEFT??? :(
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2^ you are right - a relationship cannot live when it is one sided. I understand how you are feeling.
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^i have heard it's all about the booze there...
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Carpet Munchers is soooooo crude....cant you say box bumpers or something else less crude ?
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well, this leaves NOTHING to the imagination
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I'm sorry. Just try to be there when she comes back. I know it's hard but good friends are hard to find. You guys have been through so much. She will need you.
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^^ Me too. You sound like a great person to know. Tell us more: how old are you and what is your friends situation? Where is she going, what is she leaving behind? What are the issues she is not dealing with, other than kids and family?
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we met in our early twenties when i moved to a small studio apartment in shorewood. she was living in riverwest with the man who would eventually become her husband and going to school. we would spend hours taking walks down lake drive, drinking gin and tonics out of mason jars as we would head down to the beach to light sparklers and talk about our dreams. i was the first person she called when she found out she was pregnant, i was the first person she called when she was in pain and recovering from her abortion. i was the first person she told when she decided to elope, and i was the first person she called when she found out her mother had pancreatic cancer. i was there for her the day her mother passed away while in hospice and i cried for her with all my heart at the funeral.
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after her mother's death she became anorexic and literally began to disappear in front of my eyes. my beautiful friend decided to take out all of her anger on herself. eventually i moved away...but never in spirit. and although we would go months without seeing each other i never felt like she was gone. i got married, had a child and a few months ago she called me to tell me she needed a change. she had decided she had never dealt with her mother's death and needed to work on herself and decided to move to key west to "find herself". she is going to live with an alcoholic bartender and interview transvestites for some research paper she is making up.....she has no job or way to support herself and her husband is in the middle of his nursing clinicals and can't go with her so she will be all alone. she left two days before christmas and i cant help but feel really abandoned by the whole situation...
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so i am left feeling like i lost a very special person who meant the world to me and there is really nothing i can do to make it better. sorry if this didnt make any sense, it can be quite hard to type through tears :(
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OMG I am so sorry. It is so awful to see people we love run run run like this. Thank you for sharing it. Hopefully it will reach someone who needs to read how much pain is caused when we run away.
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I live in Key West....most bartenders are alkys, except the ones that are druggies.
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^^not sister's by blood, but definitely by spirit. she was my forever friend, the person you could go 6 months without talking to and pick up right where you left off the last time....i miss her terribly, but not her now, the old her i used to know. for some reason she decided to leave everything she knows, her friends and family, even her husband in order to pursue some fUckEd up chaotic adventure that will do nothing more than distract her from all the problems she will still have waiting here for her when, and if she decides to return home.
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and yes, i am the one on the left...
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were you lovers....I hope so !
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^not lover's but i did love her.
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I wish you the VERY best and she NEEDS a true friend more than ANYTHING right now.
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on the left...I wish you were my friend, you're one in a million !
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