I am so sorry that that happened to you, and to your child. That is a pathetic thing for a man to do, and even more so because it had such an effect on your innocent son. what a stupid and selfish thing of your husband to do. Of course you deserve so much better. I am so sorry.
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I do not think it will do any good to tell your son what happened. All it will do is hurt him, and disgust him. Especially at 13, he will only have a limited understanding of what you are telling him. It will do no good. My (unasked for, I know) advice would be to wait till he is older than that to tell him, if you must, when he is more emotionally prepared to handle it. Boys especially, but all kids, really need to respect and love both parents. I think it is best to be honest with him, but at the right time and in the right way.
Good Luck.
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hope it was him and not you.
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That advice is so dumb. Kids are having sex at younger and younger ages and it would be best to tell her son at age 13, before he perhaps unknowingly spread it to another person. She's right to tell him at a young age.
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I'm not sure how you know that he cheated on you but if it just the fact he has genital herpes I would just like you to know that he could have had it for years before he had an outbreak or if you,like most of the population, have oral herpes and you too had oral sex he could have gotten it that way. Like I said I don't know the whole back story but I just wanted to inform you of other possibilities.
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Men are pigs.
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that was a terrible thing to have happen to you, but as a child of a very dirty divorce, im telling you, dont ever tell your kid that. seriously. at 13, your kid wont think much of it, and ten yours later he'll realize how much he resents you for telling him that. and you dont want to open the floodgates by initiating a making-the-other-parent-look-bad competition. neither parent looks very good after that.
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I think he should have his pecker cut off. What a piece of !@#% to do that to a marriage for one. Then to be such an idiot to not realize he could get an STD then spread it. Let's not get caught. DUH!! People are selfish i see it everyday and what sucks is our children are growing up in this mess. Tell your child! What a burden he has to carry with him the rest of his life. Just thinking about the outbreaks he will have during his young life and the pain and questions and sadness he will have. His father shouldn't even be able to see him. What a piece of Crap!!!
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I am the husband, my wife got the herpes from the guy she was cheating with.
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not ALL men are pigs but a lot are. and your guy definately was a grade A bastard. i'm sorry
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WHAT THE f*** IS WITH THESE PEOPLE TELLING HER NOT TO TELL HER CHILD?! THAT'S HOW HERPES GETS f***ING SPREAD- BY DUMB PEOPLE! TELL HIM!! Pleassseeeee. He WILL pass it on to someone else if you don't.
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Exactly how long before your marriage did your husband "cheat" ? Is it possible he had this before you two got exclusive? Or even before you two met?
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ummmmmm. STD tests are standard during pregnancy, and measures could have been taken by the OB/GYN to prevent the child getting herpes. i don't buy this story.
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HSV2 is not tested during pregnancy. OBGYN's only test someone if they have experience an outbreak. I know this because I am a mother too and husband was caught cheating. I had been tested at the end of my second pregnancy and was negative. I have since had a third and found him cheating again. I requested a test and found I am now positive for herpes. I too could have had it wile pregnant. I have an infant and don't know what to look for as far as signs. I'm so sorry you have to live with this!
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she only wants to protect her son...why wouldnt she tell him he has herpes? it has nothing to do with hurting her husband. it has to do with being responsible and being honest.
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I agree, you need to tell your son but do not be spiteful, he will understand that in time on his own, but he needs to know as to not spread it. Did you know before you had him? There is a special creme that could of been placed in his eyes...
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