How do you think he/she feels about their condition?
Stay and comfort them. You will never be sorry you did, but you will be sorry if you don't.
Best wishes to you both.
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I feel this way also. My husband has bad knees (nothing serious yet) but I don't want to be the one in the hospitals, pushing wheelchairs, and stuck at home. I wouldn't want anyone to stop there life for me either.
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to the third poster, get him knee surgery and get him to start taking better care of himself. thats what you should do regardless
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The OP I feel sorry for, I've seen that.
The third post ... jeez, get a little love in your heart. Its a KNEE and you're the one who said for better/for worse. He'll recover. Hopefully he clues in on you like I did with my ex and my major spinal surgery and DUMP you -before- the knee is fixed, heal himself up without you, never feel indebted to you, and feel empowered. Seriously. What a joke.
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My sincerest empathy reaches out to the poster. You are strong enough to stand by your loved ones side, should you choose to make that commitment. Though person suffering may not voice it (or may not be able to do so,) they are probably more scared than you and are unable to avoid a potentially inevitable outcome. Best wishes. -esc
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I know the feeling. My mom was dying of cancer at home when I was a teen and I just couldn't deal with it and left home. She was using Hospice so was at home. I didn't visit much and only saw her a few times the last few months. I would often say I was coming over then wouldn't show up. My dad told me later that on those days after she would hear the bus pass by she would prop herself up as best she could and look for me to come walking down the driveway. It was soon after she died that I realized something. The fact that I would only miss one person, and she would miss hundreds. Must have been harder for her than me.
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People die everyday. So what? I've been ill for 25 years. I've had 5 operations where they've gutted me and 4 where the surgeon went up my butt. Never asked a soul to be there. My abs are scarred and usually don't work. live eihter goes on or it doesn't.
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I watched my husband and father of two small children die of cancer. It was a horrible thing, seeing that beautiful man die in front of us. But I am satisfied now that I made him feel loved and cared for every single day that we were married, even when he was sick. I can't imagine not wanting to do that for someone you truly love.
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When it's over, you will hate yourself forever, for not being there everyday.
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You can do this. Please don't take the easy way on this experience.
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My mom and I watched my sister fade away. It is hard and the memories never truly go away but I have a clear conscience since I was there to love and support her until the end. The rest of the family however will feel the guilt of not coming to see her sooner.
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wow. but recovering from knew surgery is not what you seem to all think. my grampa loped into a coma at the hospital from knee surgery and lay in a coma slobbering drooling poopin peein and groanin for a year ...he would NEVER have wanted his loved ones to have seen or taken care of this. Im sorry but i can not agree with the person who says its KnEes for christ sake cuz you never ever know, now do you?
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Life is hard sometimes - Hang in there for him or her.
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The OP is a coward. I watched my wife fight cancer for 22 months. I watched as she turned from a beautiful vibrant woman to a shell of the person she was. She lost all her hair,soiled the sheets etc. In the final days I gave her meds and carried her back and forth to the bathroom. I held her hand as she gasped for breath choking on blood until her last breath. I wouldn,t have had it any other way no matter how bad it was. You took vowels, now honor them
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Vowels?
It is great if you have the strength and love to take care of your dying spouse. But if not, don't pretend that you are something that you are not. It will crush him, but that is life...
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Stop being such a coward, what do you think is more scary: dying or watching someone die? If you care about this person at all you won't let them die alone. Get over yourself and be there for your friend.
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Please stay! My Mom died on december 17th,,,I was getting my truck inspected and missed her last day of life...I'll never forgive myself. I was right there when Dad took his last breath, but it's just never the same...
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As hard as it is to watch you will hate yourself if you turn away. I have been there.
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