well some people need this thing called CLOSURE! that was the first and last time they ever got to meet and hold that precious child, what is creepy about that? it sounds like you have issues dealing with mortality.....that is your problem, not theirs!
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would it have been less creepy had they just chucked the baby in the trash can so they didnt have to deal with it anymore? that is a human life moron!
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It's actually the most common thing that people do, and very healthy. We have so sanitized the death process in our culture - passing it off to "professionals" - that people think it's creepy when people actually deal with death themselves.
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^1^2^3 Creepy
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To first poster: Closure!? Why the hell would a person need closure on a life that never even began!?
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when my aunt was dying of cancer my uncles my uncles built her coffin, my grandma sewed the lining for it and a flannel nighty for her to wear. when she passed away her 10 year old son spent two hours with his mom's body saying goodbye. afterward she was loaded into the back of my uncle's pickup truck (yes you can get a permit to transport a body) and taken to the crematorium to be processed.....it may sound weird to you but in my family we take care of our own. i can still remember her lying in that coffin with ivy tendrils and fresh picked wild flowers placed all around her, she really did look peaceful!
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It is wrong to judge period. This life is hard as hell, people need to remember that. We have to do what is right for ourselves
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I can see both sides here. Personally, I would want to hold my baby. I've lost 2 babies to miscarriage and losing a baby breaks your heart like nothing else. However, I can understand how the author of this post would find it a bit morbid. Just sayin.
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People chose to grieve in different ways,and their choice should be respected. Personally I understand it.
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OP is right, it is creepy to pass a dead baby around to all the family. That moment should only be shared with mother and father of the child not the whole damn planet. I know someone who did the same thing, its an attention seeking behavior people.
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^no it's not, they are seeking comfort from the people closest to them. just because the op is weirded out by death doesn't mean everyone else is! everyone grieves in a different way......
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One way to let go of the young life, acknowledge it, then let it go.
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For crap sake, this was a secret... told .. wrong or right... that is what this place is all about right?? A secret released. It creeps the person out, so? We all are different !
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Then she should have left the room. The fact that she focused on how she felt shows what type of individual she is. Hey you just lost your child, please grieve in a way that doesn't make ME feel uncomfortable... She needs to GROW UP
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{{{}}}the child was/is a part of the family and saying good-bye is an individual choice no different that a viewing at a wake. nobody has the right to say they can or can not mourn by holding the baby close and getting to know the baby if only for a moment at this personal level. I hope the baby knows that it was loved.
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It's a dead body, so CLOSURE really isn't the issue. If you feel the need to hold a dead body for emotional reasons than you are creepy and f***ed in the head. Some of these posters on here just can't accept death.
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^PHUCK YOU!! I lost my child! She died as she was being born.. Still after 13 years I can close my eyes and see her little body as I carried her! I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have those memories. Who the hell are you to tell me what closure is? My tears are running down my face as I read this.. Only a person that has felt this pain knows what it can do to you. I needed her in my arems, some don't but i did..
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^No, some of these posters on here actually have a heart! I guess you are just one of those people that when their pet dies they figure they can just replace it with another one. Just like the damn amish!
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Thi smust be from a man or a heartless woman. That is a very sad situation. All that planning for a child that stillborn.
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people who dont get this never had children. i would hold my little girl no matter how old she was. god forbid. my heart goes out to anyone who has lost a baby.
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I don't understand why you guys get so defensive because you are offended that someone feels differently than you?!?!? So what if she thinks it's weird, or if you think it's special. Do whatever you want f*** your opinion.
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^waaaa no one agrees with you....get over it! your stupid post has just made you look like a heartless person who needs to be hit up side the head with some empathy!
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^ well i'm not, i just believe in the golden rule...karma is a b**** just you wait!
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WOW
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I'm the OP: Just want all of you to know that none of the posts above are mine. You are all entitled to your opinion. I still think it's creepy. I never said it was wrong. I said I think it's creepy.
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When you grow more mature, you won't think it's creepy. You'll understand that it's part of the grieving process. To just hand off the body of a dead child to insensitive "professionals" is what's creepy.
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Our child was stillborn 18 years ago. I held it only because it was expected at the time. I didn't really want to. I felt nothing for the dead body. My thoughts throughout the years have been for the person that might have been, not for the infant that died.
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^Life began at conception you moron! How would you feel if there was a life growing and kicking in your womb for 9 months and then died when it came to being born?! How bout a little compassion! Everyone deals with things differently and on their own terms!
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^^if you are too stupid to understand that a mother who just lost their child needs closure then i don't know what to say to you. why don't you spend nine months feeling your baby inside of you, go through labor, give birth to a dead child and then tell me how you are supposed to feel about it.
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^So was the baby kicking in the family and friends womb too?
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^no, but family and friends also spend many months anticipating the birth and helping the mother and father prepare so they have emotiojnally invested their time into the child as well, you seem like a fUckTaRd!
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^^i hope you never breed, we have enough idiots on this planet!
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^If you can't share the pain of a loved one, what kind of person are you?
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